Arguing, fighting, belittling, and more goes on year after year with some family members and friends and what are the results? Stonewalling, gas-lighting, threats, and getting the unsuspecting involved in the bitter dramas? Is it worth it?
Absolutely not! The pain and the consequences are simply too much too bear! Someone ends up sick as a result of the stress. Another relative no longer wants to be around family. A person may end up in jail or worse dead! This is why on my YouTube channel: NM Enterprise 7, I am a strong advocate of separating from toxic people/places/things, going low contact, no contact, or grin until you have an exit plan!
We don't need any more strife in our lives. Sometimes just eating can be difficult and then throw-in a toxic person that gives you indigestion (sigh)! We all can do better and we will! A fed up mind will find his or her peace sooner or later, but not one who refuses to change! No, that person will keep suffering in his or her mess.
Don't fight with those who can't see the light (truth), can't stand the light, or see the light but refuse correction! We have too much work to do for our Creator! Believers, no need to keep beating the unbelieving over the head about being FREE! Rather what we do, is create our own environment of peace, build personal boundaries, and focus on God's will for our lives! The enemy will say, "How dare you? Who do you think you are?" Simply respond, "I am a child of God!"
State a personal declaration this day, "I will no longer fight with foes this year!" Then proceed to do what you can to stay clear of those who repeatedly disrespect you or do other things that hurt you often.
1) Block them online and offline.
2) Don't converse with them at any length if they should reach you online or via phone, approach your doorstep or suddenly show up in your path.
3) No inviting them to your family events and those who refuse your wishes of not wanting to see them, don't include them in on your future holiday planning.
4) Share your pain with those who care, but don't dwell in that space for long, rise above it by doing the kind of things that mentally, physically and spiritually build you up.
5) Say a prayer for yourself that God will bless you with more love in your heart for your enemies. Ask other believers to pray for you!
This upcoming year is going to be someone's best year because you are no longer connecting with the wrong people--God bless!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic and other books.
This is a spiritual blog based on a non-fiction Christian book written by Nicholl McGuire. This Christian blog is a start in the right direction for Christian believers who desire to break free from energy-draining personal and professional relationships! Prepare yourself to confront your foes in God's time! Keep your faith, say prayers, and trust in Jesus Christ! If you need deliverance, see professionals in your area to help guide you.
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Know Thy Evil Critic - You are an Enemy of Those Who Don't Like Your Spiritual Self
Now who might be the wicked critic of your faith whether in
the open or secretly hiding waiting to attack you one day? You may want to ask yourself the following
questions, “Is this person someone who just spouts off the mouth everything
ungodly so as to make me angry enough to sin?
Is this critic someone who I can trust, yet when it comes to spiritual
matters, he or she is the last person I think about talking to? Is the critic a person who may have a hidden
plan to do harm against me, because I believe what I believe and tend to offend
him or her with my faith?” If someone or
many come to mind while you ask yourself these questions, than you might
possibly have an enemy in your camp. An
evil critic is anyone who opposes, hinders, suppresses, manipulates,
criticizes, ostracizes, or speaks evil of your belief system.
A loving, sweet, wonderful unbelieving partner may not be so
attentive these days to his Christ following wife, because he doesn’t want to
hear nor talk about Jesus. If she should
start a spiritual conversation, most assuredly the unsaved partner will start
creating a wall around his mind. There
are plenty more examples, like this one, of difficult people who oppose the one
choosing to follow Jesus. How long some
of the lost and confused welcome you, all depends on how much more they can
tolerate you and your Jesus before they distance themselves from you or push
you out of their lives with their mean words.
You might say, “Oh no, not my mom! Oh no, not my man! It couldn’t be my lady! Don’t tell me, my son!” A critic turned enemy can be anyone! Now, why would someone who supposedly loves or
likes you be so critical of your walk with the Lord whether to your face or
behind your back? Because chances are,
you are doing some things that are disturbing their peace of mind, physical
location, and convicting their spirits.
Sounds similar to what Jesus did when talking to the Pharisees,
huh?
The more you talk about your
experiences believing in the one true God, the more the sinful critic will
provide his or her feedback whether on the phone, in-person, by email, text,
snail mail, or through someone else. A
sinful critic may even show up on your social networking page or other websites
you frequent all-too-ready to leave a negative, demeaning or flippant
remark. Some will say, “I am just giving
constructive feedback.” Sure.
Jealous, wayward Christians, backsliders, apostates, and the
godless are not interested in building up believers; rather they are more
interested in doing the following:
proving them wrong, making them look like fools, getting a good laugh or
tearing down one’s wholesome image.
Watch out Ms. Goody Two-Shoes or Mr. “I’m A Good Man!” the angry critic
is waiting for you to slip up.
In James
4:1-3 (NIV,) fights and quarrels occurred between Christ’s followers due to
personal envy and discontent. “What
causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that
battle within you? You want something
but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You
quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you
ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your
pleasures.”
Deceptive critics will not share too much about themselves
whether online or offline, particularly with believers, for fear that God will
reveal flaws in their character.
Therefore, they will use criticism as a distraction to keep the focus
off of them an on to others. These critics don’t want godly followers to start
praying and guiding them toward Jesus, because many of them feel content
without him. This is why a once very
talkative friend is not so social like she use to be since you met Jesus. This is why some will become easily irritated
when you ask, “Would you like for me to pray with you?” No one wants their flaws exposed even if
people already know what they are about.
Sometimes God will expedite our exit from a bad relationship
or friendship before we are ready, leaving relatives, friends and co-workers
surprised and offended that we no longer associate with them. They may say, “What happened? We use to be so close? You and your brother
were like peas in a pod. What changed
that?” You may respond, “I know, but God
is working things out in my life now.”
The critic, who doesn’t like this new you, might comment, “So he’s doing
something in you without me in your life, huh!?
I knew you were taking this God thing too far! God wouldn’t tell you to cut me off! You are out of your mind!”
As you learn more about the things of the Lord each day, you
may find that there are a number of challenges that you have to overcome
personally and professionally. If you
aren’t mindful of who you are in Christ, the devil could set a trap for you
which may put you in a place of despair, resentment, frustration and more! Unfortunately, it’s during these times when
we backslide.
Some wayward believers, who are supposed to be new creatures in Christ, will carry something ungodly from their former lifestyles in an effort to make them feel better such as the
following: a strong drink, cigarettes,
an ungodly man, an immoral woman, legal or illegal drugs, unhealthy food and
desserts, Satanic inspired media, overpriced items, a job that isn’t blessed by
God, or do other things to ease their pain--at least temporarily. However, the more and more we get whether righteous or not the more
and more we want something else when our flesh is overriding our spiritual self! There
is simply no peace when you are unhappy with self and others. We forget the Scripture where Jesus states, “Peace, I
leave you, my peace I give unto you; not as the world giveth, give I unto you…”
(John 14:27).
When you are feeling most vulnerable, you may find yourself
connecting with relatives, friends and acquaintances that are angry,
hate-filled individuals, visiting sinful places, or using things that would
make your mother question, “Who did I bring into this world? I know that’s not my child doing those things!”
Satan brings problem people and problem things into
our lives to tempt, because they get us further and further away from God! To allow the devil’s foolishness to enter our
spirits makes us nothing more than fools!
Eccles. 10:3 says this about the fool, “Yea also, when he that is a fool
walketh by the way, his wisdom faileth him, and he saith to everyone that
he is a fool.”
Backsliding moments in the faith can happen at any
time! You may be acting like Jesus in
the morning and the devil by evening when you are distant from your Creator.
When this happens, most backsliders, turned re-dedicated believers, will
go to God and repent, yet those so-called saintly types (also known as
Pharisees in the Bible), who have been observing fellow believers’ slow decline, won’t have any mercy on poor, wayward Christians. Instead, they will beat repentant believers
up with insulting words about their “supposed” renewed faith whether to their
faces or behind their backs. You quickly
learn that the church-going relative or friend you thought you were close to is
really nothing more than a foe!
Think for a minute about an old story of a wolf hiding in
sheep’s clothes. The animal sits back
and pretends to be a sheep in order to get his next meal. There are those around you, who pretend, or
suddenly have amnesia about their own mishaps, so that they can feed off of
your spiritual energy! For instance,
they may say things like, “Pray for me.
Buy this for me. Take me
here. Do this for me.” But when you point out some things that God
showed you in the spiritual realm about them, they go into denial. They don’t want to receive truth!
All mean-spirited and selfish critics want is for you to be a servant to
them, what better time than a holiday season! If you were to
call them out on their ugly behaviors, they would most likely say, “You are
reading too much into what I’m doing…I would never hurt you…I know you are
trying to get your life together. I am
so over that. I don’t do that
anymore.” But you may say to yourself,
“I don’t have much if anything to give and this person isn’t listening to what
I’m saying anyway! I am struggling to
walk with God myself. Why would some
relatives and good friends want to use me?”
The answer to that question is quite simple, because they know they can-- especially if you have a history of doing for them despite all the negativity
they have brought to you.
When you have fallen away from the Lord, you are weak and
the enemy is strong. Wayward believers
and hypocrites know this about backsliding religious and spiritual worldly people;
therefore, they will use you until they can’t use you anymore! Trust in the Lord!
Nicholl McGuire is the blog owner and the author of Know Your Enemy the Christian's Critic and Face Your Foe.
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A Slave or Free? - The Wrong Connection Can Feel Like A Curse
Some people are in marriages and feel like they are slaves. Others are in friendships and feel like they are suffocating. Many individuals close themselves off to any close contact with other human beings for fear of returning to some kind of emotional and/or physical bondage they were recently freed from. Simply put, the wrong connection with a person, place or thing will feel like a curse and who wants that?
When people claim to be free emotionally, physically and spiritually, are they really? I have come across my share of connections who were like dogs on leashes. Their masters were pulling them along by unseen forces. Controlling relatives, friends, sons, daughters, employers, etc. using all sorts of tactics to keep their feet on their victims' necks. Yet, when I sat down and talked with those in bondage (financially, emotionally, etc.) and tried to show them the light, they didn't want to see the truth. They made excuses for why they were in their messes. They recognized some of the dysfunctional behaviors but refused to do anything about their situations. They listened to wisdom and that's all they did. Meanwhile, manipulators continue to win.
You know when you have made a bad connection with someone when you feel the tension emanating from them. You feel like you are walking on eggshells in his or her presence. No matter what you say or do to help, support, or encourage him or her, he or she creates a fight even when there is none. They often blame you for everything that goes wrong and praises themselves for everything that goes right. They withhold adoration, compliments, and other things they could do to bridge a gap between you and they. Many hurt people hurt others while choosing to hold on to the past like an unenlightened one holds on to a lucky charm. They think that one-day things will get better by doing nothing more than wishing upon a star. They fail to be proactive in making the kind of changes that will propel these emotionally burdened people as well as their families in the future. Wrong connections lead to wrong decisions!
I made my share of wrong connections and have had to pay my dues, so to speak, as a result. I chose to think positively even when the writing on the wall read, "Negativity." Yet, they were "family" and this one "promised" and besides "They aren't so bad." But I had been wrong over and over again. Something was faulty in my connecting with the bad apples. I didn't need intimate connections during vulnerable times in my life, I needed time to myself for reflection, healing, restoration with my Maker, etc. and that time should have never been dictated by others not based on what others' needs and desires for me. Too many people got gold from me and in turn, they gave me junk.
Your connections now and in the future will impact your life! The wrong associations will break you emotionally, physically and spiritually. You will find yourself void of a relationship with your Creator. Your health and wealth will decline. There will be those moments where you wish that person or group out of your life. You will find yourself getting excited about the temporal things that your closest, yet toxic, family and friends give you only to be heartbroken for a long time by the repeated disappointments.
It is rare to find a person who keeps his or her word, is honest, and sincerely cares about you. Many people connect with one another for all the wrong reasons while others connect for all the right reasons. You will need a gift of spiritual discernment from your creator to help you identify who is a friend and who is the foe. Satan is alive among us and he puts those he has in darkness up to killing, stealing, and destroying the lives of so many backsliding, ignorant, and peculiar believers. Choose to be free from binding people and circumstances today!
Nicholl McGuire author of Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics and Know Your Enemy The Christian's Critic.
When people claim to be free emotionally, physically and spiritually, are they really? I have come across my share of connections who were like dogs on leashes. Their masters were pulling them along by unseen forces. Controlling relatives, friends, sons, daughters, employers, etc. using all sorts of tactics to keep their feet on their victims' necks. Yet, when I sat down and talked with those in bondage (financially, emotionally, etc.) and tried to show them the light, they didn't want to see the truth. They made excuses for why they were in their messes. They recognized some of the dysfunctional behaviors but refused to do anything about their situations. They listened to wisdom and that's all they did. Meanwhile, manipulators continue to win.
You know when you have made a bad connection with someone when you feel the tension emanating from them. You feel like you are walking on eggshells in his or her presence. No matter what you say or do to help, support, or encourage him or her, he or she creates a fight even when there is none. They often blame you for everything that goes wrong and praises themselves for everything that goes right. They withhold adoration, compliments, and other things they could do to bridge a gap between you and they. Many hurt people hurt others while choosing to hold on to the past like an unenlightened one holds on to a lucky charm. They think that one-day things will get better by doing nothing more than wishing upon a star. They fail to be proactive in making the kind of changes that will propel these emotionally burdened people as well as their families in the future. Wrong connections lead to wrong decisions!
I made my share of wrong connections and have had to pay my dues, so to speak, as a result. I chose to think positively even when the writing on the wall read, "Negativity." Yet, they were "family" and this one "promised" and besides "They aren't so bad." But I had been wrong over and over again. Something was faulty in my connecting with the bad apples. I didn't need intimate connections during vulnerable times in my life, I needed time to myself for reflection, healing, restoration with my Maker, etc. and that time should have never been dictated by others not based on what others' needs and desires for me. Too many people got gold from me and in turn, they gave me junk.
Your connections now and in the future will impact your life! The wrong associations will break you emotionally, physically and spiritually. You will find yourself void of a relationship with your Creator. Your health and wealth will decline. There will be those moments where you wish that person or group out of your life. You will find yourself getting excited about the temporal things that your closest, yet toxic, family and friends give you only to be heartbroken for a long time by the repeated disappointments.
It is rare to find a person who keeps his or her word, is honest, and sincerely cares about you. Many people connect with one another for all the wrong reasons while others connect for all the right reasons. You will need a gift of spiritual discernment from your creator to help you identify who is a friend and who is the foe. Satan is alive among us and he puts those he has in darkness up to killing, stealing, and destroying the lives of so many backsliding, ignorant, and peculiar believers. Choose to be free from binding people and circumstances today!
Nicholl McGuire author of Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics and Know Your Enemy The Christian's Critic.
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