Using the church as a match-making service is risky and
doesn’t always connect like-minded believers.
Instead, some find themselves pressured to get married because the
church says so. Others may not find a
partner attractive, but money, material wealth and connections might be a lure
for wanting to be in a relationship.
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Meeting a lover in church and eventually having sex with
this person, outside of marriage, will cause conflict between new believers.
Those who are not that spiritually strong will look at such a connection and
may feel it is okay to mimic the behavior.
Others will compromise their personal beliefs or possibly existing
relationships for a little fun.
Unfortunately, many back-sliding Christian men and women
have spent much time observing potential dates in the pews while supposedly
listening to the word of God. They
realize their actions were not good, that they are still spiritually immature,
and that their misdeeds have caused a separation between them and their
Creator.
It can be quite challenging to focus on the word of God when one is more concerned about getting fleshly needs met. Using the people of God when one is not a sincere believer is unwise, dangerous and will anger a righteous God. There is no excuse for such behavior especially when God’s will has not been made clear. Sometimes a partner or significant other is not found in the church setting, but at other church related events. Other times a connection is made elsewhere between two like-minded individuals.
The church is like a hospital, a place where the spiritually
ill go to be made well again. However,
it is typically not a place where one should consider dating someone unless
there is a specific ministry for singles to connect. Some churches will set up days and times for
singles to study the word together, attend special events, and counseling
sessions.
If more people would go to church to focus on the things of
the Lord and what his word has to offer, there would be less conflict between
the members of the body of Christ.
Singles as well as married couples would be able to attend church
without feeling like someone is trying to “hook up” with them.
Nicholl McGuire is an author and inspirational speaker. She is the author of Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics and the blog owner.
