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It's All In the Family: On Renouncing Who They Want You to Be

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On Telling Your Secret - Exposing Yourself as God Leads

Top 6 Ways to Get An Angry Customer to Back Down

10 Symbols That Aren't What You Thought They Were!

When the Narcissist Holiday Shops

Hollywood Exposed - California and others

On Favoring One's Ethnicity, Gender, Religion or Culture

Sexual Perversion from a Spiritual Perspective - sexual harassment

The Key to Receiving a Blessing is to Please God

Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic - Available on Kindle

Spiritual warfare is taken place as the praises go up to our wonderful, almighty God.  Be reminded of the strategies of your foe, the wicked stranger, evil co-worker, ugly relative, or even the nice person at the church with a monkey on his her back.  In Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic, author Nicholl McGuire shines the light on many people you least suspect are enemies and how to combat your foe spiritually in Jesus name.  Check out book on Amazon, here.

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Constant Reminders of God - Everytime you look around He's there

Removing the Stigma: Mental Illness in the Church

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You Promised Me God - prayer, trust, belief

What is real repentance? Turn away from sin

YouTube NM Enterprise 7 - faith-based channel, encouragement, conviction, wisdom

We are most appreciative of our listeners and watchers over on YouTube NM Enterprise 7 and thank you so much for your continued support!  We have been on the site since October 31, 2008.  This year makes nine preaching and teaching Holy Spirit inspired wisdom--wow!

Lately, we have noticed a gradual increase of subscribers and also a positive change in our watch time on the site.  We see that more people are taking notice of the channel and are subscribing daily.  God is moving rapidly showing our family both online and offline the power of His Spirit. 

We are truly amazed at all that God does using his Holy Spirit and Christ teachings using us mere vessels.  We anticipate the future to be prosperous and bright for all that have joined the network.  To date, we are seeking God on what more we might need to do to draw more men and women to Christ while taking care of our daily responsibilities and financial obligations.  So do be in prayer for our family and the YouTube channel as well as business endeavors.  We sincerely believe that God is indeed moving in our lives and the YouTube network!

We pray that blessings in the coming days, weeks and months will overflow for all!

Blessings to you,

Nicholl

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No One Knows the Day or Hour, End of World

Prepare for the Great Challenge - nations, empires

The Contributions, Achievements of Sin

When to Let Go - relationships, family, dating, organizations

The Man Who Cheats

When God Deals with the City of Sin

Satan's Women - spirits, evil, drama

The Power in Keeping Quiet

Part 1 of 2 Isaiah 59 - Sin, Confession, Redemption

Unconfessed Offenses - family secrets

Author Shares Spiritual Challenges and Wisdom About Christian Confrontations in Face Your Foe: On Confronting the Critics

"The moment I made my announcement to follow Jesus back in 1997 (then later rededicated my life after a couple of miserable relationships), the interference of the demonic paranormal was at work touching those around me who were spiritually weak, unsaved and backsliders in my social circle to break me down whether psychically, behind my back or to my face. God’s enemies were also my foes. Little did I know that I would spend a future of fighting spiritual battles (with the Creator’s guidance, of course) with people I least suspected.

Nicholl McGuire, Author of Face Your Foe: On Confronting the Critics

and Know Your Enemy The Christian's Critic

Soon to follow would be cynical questions, harsh criticisms, lies, and unhelpful statements. Just as Jesus was questioned by his enemies (see the books of John and Luke), I being his child would experience similar confrontations. “Jesus didn't tell you that…God wouldn't have you do that. You are not a Christian…Now explain to me why you did what you did again? You really think God put you up to that?” my foes wanted explanations, information to use against me, and other things that had little to do with God and everything to do with them.

The accusations they made, which I knew were influenced by Satan, hurt much. The mean words were from those I thought loved me. Their harsh statements were not meant to support me on anything related to God’s will, but to discourage my wanting to do more with my life which was to become a better person. “But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6, ESV).

Satan was using some backsliding relatives, unbelieving acquaintances and former friends to put pressure on me to renounce my faith in God and go back to walking on the dark side. Some said things like, “You don't want to be like (Christians). You know how they are in the church--that's why I don't go. You can talk to me about things without mentioning God or Jesus.” By dissuading me not to follow the Father, they would not have to feel convicted around me to change their dark ways of thinking and their lifestyles too.

When I was in love with the world, I recalled that the sincere Christ followers were not the kind of people you could sit comfortably around while justifying personal sins. They would call you out on your foolishness, but no so with the wayward. They were very supportive when it came to sinning, because they knew what they had done and were still doing. The popular response to sin from them was, “I’m not going to judge you.” But I knew that teaching or warning people not to fall in a trap was definitely not judging them. I learned early on that the hypocrites liked words such as: “wise, righteous, God, and Jesus,” but they weren’t much interested in following him or his precepts.

After turning my life over to the Savior, critics would mouth "you call yourself a Christian" when I spoke truth about something they preferred to believe lies about. It didn’t matter what the news or the kind of truth or how I delivered it, if it was good, righteous and convicting, many backsliders and believers found fault with it or blatantly didn’t want to hear it.

Due to my faith and past disputes, I noticed during the early days of my walk, that I no longer had access to some people’s ears or their environments. There was no reaching a compromise with people who were passionate about their unbelief in an unseen “force” or other names they referred to God as like “it,” “ghost,” “thing,” “voice,” “something said,” “man upstairs” or “god” (but not the Almighty--some other god). Our relationships were forever changed when I said, “Yes” to Jesus and “No more” to Satan.

Frustrated faces that were deeply offended by me and my God just didn't want me talking about Him or His truth. “He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it” (Titus 1:9, ESV). From revelations regarding deceptive worldly news to manipulative behaviors of others, I with a journalism and communications background was not well-received.

Some people rejected the truth about the existence of Satan's minions (primarily beloved entertainers, leaders, family members, civic connections, etc.) in all sorts of industries. In addition, they didn’t want to think about how they were in error and their self-righteous concepts were simply not beneficial to the masses. Satan’s minions were enablers, backsliders, liars, cheating spouses, argumentative, mentally ill, and so-called believers in Christ. They were (and some still are) a defensive, arrogant, and profane, unbelieving bunch.

Like with so many zealous, new believers, during the early days of receiving Christ into my heart, I couldn't help but want to talk about the Bible, God, and other spiritual signs, wonders and miracles. Although I am not as zealous as the new babe in Christ I once was, as a mature believer, I still very much talk about righteousness, sin, God and other related things both on and off the Internet. I do not consider myself religious, but spiritual and I am not in agreement or supportive of lukewarm churches either. I prefer to meet with veteran believers who are out in the field doing what they are called to do while actively working outside of boxes. We were never meant to stay in the church for the rest of our lives! There are lost, confused, and desperate people who you won’t find going to any churches, so we as believers meet the people where they are! My love for Jesus and the hurting and wounded has not changed!" 

Book excerpt taken from Face Your Foe: On Confronting the Critics by Nicholl McGuire

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What You Never Knew About Infidelity

VaShawn Mitchell - Turning Around for Me (Live)

"God Favored Me "HEZEKIAH WALKER LYRICS

Believers with an "I Feel" Doctrine - carnal, selfish

Praying in the Midst of Hopelessness

Disobedience - Unbelief, Unfaithfulness - They Wonder Why God Does What He Does

It was a quiet voice, a stirring in your Spirit, the feeling that you shouldn't...the Holy Spirit was being used by your Creator to prevent, protect, and progress you, and what did you do?  You remember those days of disobedience (unbelief in Our Savior and unfaithfulness to God), rebellion against people and things designed to instruct and better you, and a steady decline spiritually due to a variety of sinful distractions.  Back then, you ignored what you know to be true, right, and could help you as well as others.  Could you still be acting that way?  Maybe it is one of your loved ones that calls his or herself a believer, yet you don't see any fruit on that tree due to disobedience.

When you view media stories, notice the signs that the "victim" was being disobedient.  He or she will claim that one didn't know, had no clue, and wasn't warned, but not so for the Christian!  He or she knows better, God speaks, but the question is "Was the believer listening?"  As much as we demonstrate kindness, respect, generosity, patience and love toward our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, we also have to caution as well and remind/rebuke them for their disobedience and straying away from the Lord as God leads.  The "victim" who is still in a state of rebellion will get angry and wish evil on us as they utilize our assistance and take our hand-outs, but truth is truth!

How many times does God have to use people, places, and things to warn his people in advance to do things like: move away, let go of sin, trust Him, follow His precepts, and more before believers finally listen and obey?  There is a disturbance in our spirits for those we love the most, but also are not where they should be in Christ.  We know that it is only a matter of time that God's directive will be, "Let him go...don't help her any longer.  We have other things to do."  It is then that the disobedient one will be left alone, set up to pay a dear price for sin.  Sometimes people have to hit rock bottom in order to see the light at the top.  Others (like what happened to Jonah) have to gradually fall before they realize they are off the God ordained path.  They run from God and his commands, forget what Jesus did for them, and don't want to heed the warnings that they are being given leading up to death.

The truth be told due to disobedience many rebellious believers have prematurely entered their graves, lost relationships with children and grandchildren, buried many loved ones (while declaring themselves blessed to be alive), have told many lies and are reaping the consequences, sleeping with the enemy, and giving themselves over to all sorts of false doctrines and false teachers. The pain of witnessing such things for the obedient can be too much to bear sometimes.  This is why we have to look forward and not behind otherwise we can end up like Lot's wife.  A rebellious people who are under judgment are not friends, but are foes and will continue to go through much until they submit to the will of God.

Nothing or no one is worth disobeying a mighty God who is responsible for life and death.

Scripture references to consider:

I Corinthians 6:18
Galatians 5:19-21
Romans 1:18-30
Jonah 1:4-10
Acts 27:13-26
Jeremiah 25:15-33

Nicholl McGuire

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Don't Let Life Get in the Way of Your Spiritual Self

How many times must one be reminded that he or she is more than just mind and body?  You are spirit too!  Yet, too often we forget about that spiritual self that yearns to be nourished.  It is the basic building block that stabilizes us, keeps us out of trouble, and protects us when the storms of life get us down.  However, if we ignore the Spirit and allow life to get in the way, we ultimately make poor choices rather than wise ones.  We find ourselves taking years rather than days to get our desires met.  We argue with people who mean us well and do other things that bring us emotionally, physically and spiritually down in the dumps.

Living this life comes with its highs and lows, pinnacles and pitfalls, but it is up to us to stand strong to defy the odds of defeat and to allow our personal successes to be great motivators.  I don't know about you, but I don't enjoy feeling a void, incomplete, or my back up against the wall because I neglected my spiritual self.  I don't like to be emotionally and physically drained by people who could care less about spirituality.  I despise going anywhere or doing anything without a moral compass, so I am very protective of mine.  Yet, people will show up in our lives all-too-willing to appease the flesh while ignoring the Spirit, and don't mind encouraging you not to listen or obey the one true God who made heaven and earth.  It is almost laughable that anyone would even consider ignoring the one who created not only mind and body, but our spirits too.

Life has it's share of challenges, but we don't have to fall prey to the temptations that lead us away from our spiritual selves, rather we learn and grow from them.  We pray to the heavenly Father and ask Him to strengthen us spiritually, mentally and physically.  We trust that He will guide us and put us on the right path so that we can come up higher.  We rely on the Great Shepherd not just during tough times, but pleasant ones too. 

You are not alone, God is indeed with you!  So don't ignore Him, allow your spiritual self to embrace Him this day!

Much love to you who is fearfully and wonderfully made!
Nicholl McGuire

YouTube NM Enterprise 7 - Get Your Wednesday Wisdom

Get updated content from our sister site YouTube NM Enterprise 7 without all the distractions from other YouTube videos.  This is a podcast that keeps you informed of spiritual insight, breakthrough and more that mean the most to you!  Check out audios on family, faith, business, relationships and more.  Inspirational speaker and author Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight.  She has been a believer in the Father, his Son, and the Holy Spirit since 1997.  Check out her feed.  Subscribers pay a small fee to stay connected.  See here YouTube NM Enterprise 7

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The Struggle to Go to Church - face the enemy of self

What to Wear to Church and Other Places of Faith

A place of worship is just not the place to wear items that head turn, distract, or misrepresent who you are.  Just like you wouldn't wear certain things to work, you would exercise the same caution when attending a church or similar place where the focus is on one's personal faith and not on self and others.  So what to wear to a church setting?

Most respectable women wear long skirts or dress slacks depending on the type of congregation.  They don't display a lot of skin and wear light make up and accessories or none at all.  Men usually dressed in clean clothes and look like they are going to work or to a formal event once again based on the kind of church they attend.  From Dockers to jeans or shorts (those that cover thighs), casual churches tend to be quite laid back about how their members dress. 

Some people of faith will think twice about advertising anything like a sports team, popular cliché statements, graphic tees, or something else that takes away from the purpose of gathering together in the first place.  Minimal attention given to your wardrobe is especially important if you are not one for drawing people to you.  Yet, there are those individuals that don't bother to think about the kind of people they are attracting when they wear things like Yoga pants with the outline of their private areas in plain view or form-fitted shirts where all the world can see things they would prefer not.

Take some time to look at what people wear that have attended the church for quite some time like the leadership or staff if you are still quite confused on what to wear.  Are they dressed in their Sunday best, casual, or is there a mix of attire?  Of course, many well-meaning believers will say, "Come as you are..." However, once again be mindful of your appearance.  That statement isn't meant for visitors to take advantage and dress inappropriately.

Nicholl McGuire is the owner and manager of this blog.

Put Your Adversaries in God’s Hands

“For my enemies speak against me; And those who lie in wait for my life take counsel together…” Psalm 71:10 (NKJV). You might have an enemy or two that don’t like you for any and every reason. It doesn’t matter if these men or women are family members or not, unrelenting enemies are out to destroy you.  But there comes a time when the favor of God rests upon you and you will hear of stories related to your adversaries being brought down low!

When one is a hindrance to the people of God, he or she becomes an enemy of God. We shouldn’t wonder why some things happen to our adversaries or even rejoice in their demise, the battle wasn’t with us, but with our Creator. Since time began, men and women think of themselves to be gods or godlike. They hurt others when people stand in the way of their slow rise to god status and when their selfish needs go unmet. They also consider older people, children, the poor and others to be beneath them, so they talk quite negatively about all. And God sees and hears the attacks made on his people.

I think of a time when a family member argued much with others about a variety of things. There was a period of peace for a time before the quarreling whether to one’s face or behind his or her back started back up again. The battles were unnecessary and were centered on the backslider’s selfish motives. It wasn’t long before the people who supposedly gave this person the most grief was removed out of one’s life. Sometimes people make themselves an enemy without fully realizing the consequences of their actions.

Our adversary above all, Satan, doesn’t want anyone happy.  He orchestrates plans to target the vulnerable and make them his footstool. At times people will offer themselves to Satan without realizing it by doing unrighteous things. Their minds refuse to listen and obey God. A rebellious people refusing to turn away from their wicked ways will not inherit the kingdom of God.

If one wants God near him or her, he or she has to put his or her trust in Him.  “Deliver me, O my God, out of the hand of the wicked, Out of the hand of the unrighteous and cruel man. For You are my hope, O Lord God; You are my trust from my youth.” Psalm 71:4.   

Nicholl McGuire is the owner and manager of this blog.

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Frats & Soros Hidden Truth: "Something To Talk About"

Saved!

Renewed

Mind

Body

Spirit.

Praise

Appreciation

Love for God.

Trials

Suffering

Hope for the Future.

Life will never be the same!

When You Receive a Word of Wisdom...

Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all.
1 Timothy 4:15 (KJV)

10 Tips on Having an Amicable Relationship with the Ex

Tired of arguing with your ex?  Isn’t that the reason why you both couldn’t make it in your relationship anyway?  Why not, make up in your mind that you will not stress yourself out anymore over what he or she says or does?  If the subject you are doing battle with the ex is not about something that will kill you or the children, why the fuss?  Learn how to move past the temper tantrums and onward to a healthy relationship.

1) Pleasant phone conversation

When he or she calls you, make a point to sound like you are in a good mood even if you are not.  A negative person will be thrown off by your behavior; they may even forget why they even called.  Don’t be surprised if your ex may even be jealous.  Exchange pleasantries such as “How are you?  What can I do for you?  How is the family?”

2) Sticking with the reason why you called

If you are the one who contacted your ex, then you will want to not only be positive, but also get to the point.  Who wants to stay on the phone with someone they don’t like?  However, you don’t want he or she to be reminded of how much you disdain them, so don’t rush your sentences and stick to conversing only about the reason why you called.  Avoid beating around the bush.

3) Arranging a date and time to meet

Let’s say you would like to see the children and live far away.  You may want to arrange a place for you and the ex to meet to transfer the children between you.  With a request like this, it will take some effort on his or her part and if he or she is unreasonable, they may want to argue.  Be prepared for the opposition before you make the call and propose another arrangement.  Remember to state how the visit will benefit them.  For example, “You may need some time to yourself, I have no problem taking the children off your hands for a few days, how does that sound?”  Don’t give up with your requests.  Keep asking until eventually he or she will have to say yes. 

4) Staying positive during the meeting

When you do see one another face to face, be sure you are looking your best.  You don’t want to give an impression that you are heartbroken and worn out about the breakup.  Be happy even when the new girlfriend or boyfriend is sitting in the passenger seat of the car.  If you can demonstrate some self-control, you will have won the battle!  Remember why you left the relationship and why you are working to become a better person, this kind of thinking will make you feel better about you and will help you to avoid the feelings of missing he or she.  During the meeting, don’t do or say anything that you will regret later.

5) Avoiding negative conversation about ex with family and friends

Family and friends are not very supportive of talking positive about the ex.  You may say something negative to them and like cheerleaders they will lead you into negative thinking you don’t need.  Avoid the conversations about the past whenever possible.  When you find the conversation is going that way, just change it, by talking about something else.

6) Being thoughtful at times to your ex

When children are involved, you know that you will have to act civil with your ex even when you don’t feel like it.  If you rather not, your children will think it’s okay to act like a fool.  You may even want to let your ex know you are okay with how you both are handling matters, by simply sending a birthday card once in awhile or buying a simple gift for he or she that the children picked out. 

7) Making the best of a bad situation

You can make the best out of every negative comment and act committed by your ex.  When he or she talks negatively about you to the children, use that situation as an opportunity to teach them how to treat people.  When the ex doesn’t take care of his or her responsibilities, make a list and use it later in court.  If the ex’s family is acting irrational, use situations to your advantage where you look like you have it together.

8) Conversing with the children

Your children will ask questions and they will also express how they feel about mom and dad breaking up.  Allow them to vent about it.  However, even if they bad-mouth mom or dad don’t agree or encourage the negative comments.  Listen to what they are saying, but also teach them about respect.  You don’t want them to grow up to be disrespectful to everyone around them as a result of their experience.

9) Handling conflict

It won’t always be positive when talking with the ex.  Therefore, when conflict arises try not to yell or be tempted to engage in conversations that will lead to name calling, cussing, etc.  If you feel the conversation is getting heated, there is nothing wrong with putting him or her on hold, changing the subject, becoming silent on the phone, or telling him or her you will have to end the conversation because you have other business to handle.  Whatever it takes to take control over your emotions, do it.  You aren’t responsible for his or her reaction to how you handle the conversation.

10) Allowing your ex to be a parent

As much as you despise the arrangement with visitation, custody issues, and any thing else related to your children’s location, don’t present yourself as a domineering, controlling lunatic with your ex.  Explain to he or she what you do at your home (when necessary such as the children telling them something about your household and your ex questions it) and always describe activities in a positive way.  It isn’t any of his or her business exactly how you conduct your day with the children, no more than it is your business.  If you find that he or she is doing something harmful to the children, then by all means stand up for them and contact the necessary authorities.  

Nicholl McGuire 

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When Your Foe is Your Own Offspring - Rebellious Children

A huge fight broke out between parent and child.  A son or daughter wanted to feel love, needed attention from a parent, had been repeatedly hurt by both parents, and felt left out on major decisions.  He or she hoped to express his or her opinion without being shut down.  But the demanding parent or guardian oftentimes didn't want to be questioned.  He or she wanted a good child, one who listened and obeyed without rebellion. 

The other parent out of sight out of mind at least to the former lover, but not to the child, "That is still my mom...my dad!" The overwhelmed single parent noticed others were going through similar things with their children, but their problem, they weren't willing to make any major adjustments to alleviate parental challenges.  Funny, a parent can see what is wrong with others' relationships with children, but not his or her own.  So a child grows up to be a young adult, and what is left of a poor connection between one and parent?

No matter how much one prays, trusts God, attends church service, or have others to pray, if there is an unwillingness to reconnect with one another in a healthy and hopeful way while seeking healing for the troubled mind, there will be more lows than highs in any relationship.  Casting aside toxic distractions, people, things, etc. is part of the process in an attempt to bridge a gap or obtain some healing for a broken connection with a child.  But if the distraction is someone or something that the parent or guardian favors, he or she might end up choosing the person, place or thing over the child who has given him or her so much grief.  No matter what the reason might be for making such a choice, the point is the child now feels rejected.

Rejection leads to a twisted mindset in time--a spiritual schizophrenia looking for love in all the wrong places.  "Why mom, why dad...you didn't want me!  Well I will seek someone/something who does!" 

It isn't any wonder why people make the choices that they make when it comes to: choosing a dysfunctional partner like themselves, having sex with multiple partners in a short period of time, making money with shady businesses, working unfulfilling jobs, choosing over-priced education for a coveted title, attempting to parent others' children when they can barely take care of their own, and more during times when they are ill-equipped to handle themselves much less responsibilities related to major life decisions. 

If one has a child who is often in trouble, difficult to handle, has a mental challenge, angry with the other parent, using drugs or alcohol heavily, and doing other things that drive a parent up the wall, why expect he or she to go along with too much of anything that you might suggest?  Your personal happiness is irrelevant, how much you have done for he or she is unimportant, and who you might bring into that child's life is the least of one's concerns.  But what is of major concern to a child is being heard.  You can love a child until he or she is blue in the face, yet if there are inconstancies in that love and it is based on the child performing rather than just being, then of course he or she doesn't feel loved (refer to I Corinthians 13, do you really love your child?)  Throw in "training up a child" and sure you give them God, but what about your time/love/energy/kindness?  He or she gravitates to Him and only Him.

Children don't come into this world wanting to be a problem for a parent.  They don't always sit back and orchestrate a plan to divide couples (although some do).  They don't set out on a mission to tear up your clean and organized home.  Their intentions are not to hurt a sibling and upset you, connect with a bad friend to shame you, or run and tell other relatives just how bad a parent you might be, rather they do have a place within their mind, body and spirit that is after peace and contentment.  Notice what they do really isn't about you, but a self-absorbed parent believes everything that a child does is about him or her.  Take "me, I, self" out of the equation and you will find that your purpose is to serve others including your child--there is no age limit on service.  People in the church and out of the church are typically able-bodied people, but they have their emotional and physical needs and so too are rebellious children. 

Kids know that if they don't "straighten up" or "tow the line" there will be consequences.  However, for the ineffective parent, sons and daughters aren't the least bit concerned about him or her enforcing the rules, because the parent might have a long track record of being a push over and doesn't want to hurt their children's feelings.  He or she most likely went to battle with the other parent for their children so they know he or she is the weak link.  You know as an adult how people get over on weak, gullible and insecure people.  Children aren't blind, they can see and smell fear and weakness.  This is why some children don't hesitate to intimidate or guilt ineffective parents--there is no healthy fear or respect for a parent like this.  Worse, if the child or children has witnessed a mother weak to a man or vice versa such as:  backing down via intimidation during disagreements, accommodating the bully, and mistreated in other ways like lying and cheating, the child or young adult might mimic what he or she viewed growing up.  Don't believe this is occurring with some of you readers?  Well pay attention the next time you argue with a partner whether in front of a child or in the next room.  It won't be long before you get in a disagreement with the kid and he or she will test you by raising his or her voice, cursing, slamming doors, and acting in similar ways that you or your partner acted toward one another.  You say you love a partner, but in a child's eyes. you have a funny way of showing it.

So when you find yourself or you know of someone who feels like he or she is fighting a foe, in this case, a child, know that it is due to the fact that he or she didn't demonstrate quality parenting skills early on and allowed his or her selfish desires to take priority over the child's need for love and attention.  But it is never too late to be the kind of parent who makes wrongs right. 

Parenting goes beyond spending dollars and cents on a child's favorite stuff or a young adult's college education, or making a contribution to an older son or daughter's wedding plans.  Consider what our heavenly Father wants from us, a relationship.  He welcomes us with loving and open arms to cast our burdens on to Him.  He doesn't throw up a long list of things he has done for us unless we desire a war with Him and if so, your hands are too short to box with an Awesome God, you will lose!  Yet, selfish, ineffective, demanding, and mentally ill parents will try to debate truth, the meaning of love, turn a blind eye to their poor decisions while blaming a child and the list goes on.  Then they wonder why they are not acknowledged during man-made holidays.  They guilt children into buying for them and use scripture to justify their many sins. 

Honor is earned.  God is love.  Children are gifts.  Your adversary is Satan not the child.  When you welcome all people, places and things related to the devil and his children of darkness, he will wreck havoc in your life as well as others whom you love very much. 

Cast out Satan not the child in Jesus mighty name!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic and Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics.  

Before Your Wife Became a Foe - 10 Things You Did or Still Do to Win Her Heart

In the past, you have done fabulous things that have won favor with your wife, but things might have changed with every moment you felt like you were helping rather than hurting her or being hurt when she was only trying to help (Proverbs 12:4).  

It may be time to rekindle the fire in your marriage, so you will need to think of the things that really enhanced your relationship.  You may still be doing some of those things.  Once you have thought of those special moments, add the following to your list and make a point to do each one just “as long as you both shall live!” (Proverbs 18:22)

One.  You take the time to call her when you are away from her.  It doesn’t seem like much, but she appreciates your caring enough about her day to ask her about it. (Proverbs 31:10)

Two.  You visit her unexpectedly.  She may have told you that she will be working late at the job, so you arrive just as she gets off of work with flowers in your hand. (2 Samuel 2:6)

Three.  You surprise her with a vacation and/or gift.  Sometimes daily living becomes rather dull.  A nice surprise like this makes life worth living!  You may have done this back when you dated her, now is the time to try it again. (Hebrews 13:16, Galatians 6:2)

Four.  You talk positively about her to family and friends.  There is nothing that puts a smile on a woman’s face faster, when she knows that her husband speaks lovely about her.  This tells her that you not only say you love her, but everyone else knows it too. (Matthew 19:4-6, Joshua 2:12)

Five.  You kiss and/or hold her without anticipating she have sex with you.  When a man does this it makes her more likely to have sex with you.  She likes to feel the sense of love, security, admiration, and other feelings that come with being held. (Mark 10:6-9)

Six.  You compliment her on how she looks.  Women take the time to pick out clothes, get their hair and nails done, and so much more.  When a man notices her new look it helps her feel more confident that she has made wise choices.  She will often work to make herself look even better for you the next time. (Ephesians 4:32)

Seven.  You look at her while she is talking to you.  By doing this, you have made a point to tell her that you care about what she says.  She will be more apt to share more with you about her feelings just by you making this simple gesture. (Colossians 3:18-19)

Eight.  You tell her how special she is and say, “I love you” without her initiating the conversation.  Making a point to share your feelings without her having to engage you in this sort of conversation will do much for your relationship, because she can be at ease with feelings of insecurity that tend to arise after incidents of mistrust. (I Corinthians 7:1-16)

Nine.  You assist her with household chores without her asking.  Don’t you like it when someone assists you with a task?  Helping her with chores is considerate, your mom would be proud! (Proverbs 11:17)

Ten.  You tell her that she doesn’t have to do anything for you, but love you.  There is so much said in this statement.  The world demands so much from each and every one of us, when someone tells us that we are not obligated to do anything it makes us want to do more.  Remind her that she is special to you and that you didn’t marry her because of what she does for you, but because of who she is!  (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

By doing any of these tips often, someone reading this will surely have some needed pleasure from the wife! (Proverbs 5:18-19). Take a moment to pray and ask God for wisdom on what you might be overlooking that is contributing to ongoing problems between you and the wife.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Face Your Foe on Confronting the Critics.

7 Things You Should Pray For Often

The following seven things are the most important things you should pray about when speaking with God.  As you will see in the Bible, prophets prayed for these things and supernatural miracles happened for many of them.  When you feel up or down in your life, pray.  A healthy spiritual life is key to combating the perils of this life.  May the following seven prayer requests renew you in mind, body, and spirit. 

One.  Healing and health is what sustains us each day.  Without being healed from a sickness you can’t be of much help to someone else.  When you are not ill, it is best to thank God for the health you already have and remember someone who may not be doing so well with his or her health.

Two.  Wisdom is what you will need in whatever you do.  How can you know what to do in a situation when you have no knowledge?  Sometimes a book to read, conversing with someone, or Internet research is simply not enough.  You may have to look to something greater than man or thing to get the answers you need to solve your problems. 

Three.  Protection from harm and danger is essential when you fear what you don’t know.  How do you know when you leave your home today, you will be coming back without injury, better yet, alive?  How do you know that your adventure seeking family member will come back safe after challenging his fate yet again?  These are experiences that happen to people often and wouldn’t it be nice to know that someone cares enough to pray?

Four.  Family and friends and anyone you come in contact with on a daily basis.  Most people don’t realize that when they share a problem with a friend, subconsciously they are looking for something more than sympathy.  They want answers and encouragement.  The next time someone tells you about their aching back or troubled relationship, secretly pray for them.

Five.  Prosperity financially, spiritually, and mentally.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with praying for a financial increase, spiritual renewal, or mental strength to handle the next challenge set before you.  If you can ask someone for money, seek a psychologist for mental health, or sit down and listen to a minister counsel you, then why not ask God first?

Six.  The ability to see signs and wonders.  God is still blessing millions of people with miracles.  If you need him to give you a sign your situation is already being handled by Him, then why not ask for a sign?  However, you will need to pray the following to be sure that the sign you are awaiting for is not a trick from the evil one.

Seven.  Discernment.  Too many people go into situations not knowing who is friend or foe.  Wouldn’t you like to know who indeed is on your side at work?  What family member really doesn’t love you?  And why certain people seem to always be around you when you need them?  The only way you will be able to see the goodness as well as the evil in some people is by praying for the gift of discernment.  However, a gift like this isn’t dispensed to everyone, only God’s chosen and the only way you can become one of God’s people is if you accept Him.  Easier said than done.

Nicholl McGuire

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Know a Fool?

I have confronted fools, participated in conversations with them, and have been used and abused by them. You can't win a confrontation with a foolish person even if you consider them a best buddy or someone you might even die for.  Fools will always be fools unless they allow God to take hold over their minds, bodies and spirits and even then there is still much work they will need to do to stop entertaining people in ungodly ways.

Here are some things to consider when dealing with foolish (stupid, crazy-making, silly) people:

1.  Don't further entertain them with any conversation that sounds righteous.  Fools have the mindset to change anything they deem serious into a joke.  They feed off of attention--give them none when you know full well what is on your mind is not a laughing matter.  Until they stop fooling around, keep your wisdom to yourself.

2.  Fools are not usually good partners, leaders, workers, friends, sons, daughters, etc.  Many silly people are selfish.  They have trained themselves to get attention from others by any means necessary including: insulting, acting threatening, pranking, etc.  Then when they aren't well-received by others, they accuse people of having no sense of humor, acting too serious, or "that person is mean" and what are they when fools name-call or bad mouth others?

3.  When you encounter a fool, be polite, but don't invite him or her into your home whenever possible.  People like this seek information to go back and share with others.  If you have something that you care about at home or you do certain things that you wouldn't want to get out, don't let a fool show up and siphon material from observation for his or her next act.  Folks forget just how private their home life is and don't mind letting anyone and everyone in--bad move!

4.   Foolish people are typically depressed, have mental illness or personality disorders.

Unfortunately, people are laughing at foolish people not realizing why they are so ridiculous, funny, or ignorant.  Many troubled minds are that way due to harsh upbringings, past or current substance addictions, and mental challenges.  What you see in public, isn't always what you get at home with these people.  "She is so funny," says a fool's admirer.  "Yeah, but she's also weird--very weird (you don't know her at home), just be careful with that fool!" says the discerning observer.

5.  Consider this, fools are not children of light.

As much as you would like to think that your favorite person is one of God's chosen, this is usually not the case if he or she demonstrates a long list of unfruitful and sinful behavior.  So think twice before you say that you know someone is going to heaven or "I know him/her very well..." just because he or she told some good jokes and made people laugh or you spent some time with a foolish person, doesn't mean that he or she is all that "fun, great, sweet" away from you.

God is a righteous god not an immoral one or naive one.  Know who fools are serving.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Know Your Enemy the Christian's Critic as well as many other nonfiction books.

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Embrace the Truth - It Just Might Save Your Life

People don’t want to hear about what they are doing wrong when it comes to raising their children. They don’t want to know about what their neighbor is doing every night at 3 a.m. when he is walking a package to a truck blaring bass music with tinted windows. They don’t want to see how much weight they gained and the doctor’s report listing all of their health problems. They don’t want to know why they sincerely can’t keep a partner, win friends, or stay committed to a job. They don’t want to find out why so much bad keeps happening in their lives despite how they treat others. The truth hurts, being exposed is embarrassing, and finding out that a beloved family member or friend is guilty of something is cutting. We all have a choice either we listen to the truth, watch for the evidence and make changes in our lives or lie, manipulate, deceive or attempt to control the messenger(s).

If you are a writer or blogger, notice some of the comments left on some of your most controversial writings or the statements made by someone you know after you told them about something they should or shouldn’t be doing. Chances are there are some in the group that don’t like the truth you are presenting. Some may even say they agree with what you said but don’t like your delivery. Truth takes on many forms and it isn’t always nice. It can be brash, bold, rude, crazy, wild, polite, sweet and more.

Isn’t it interesting how people on hot seats have a way of “paying you back for rebuking, warning, prophesying or advising” them? They sit and wait for you to error, they blow what you say out of proportion, or they blatantly lie or change the order of events or leave certain parts out. “She was so rude to me. She disrespected me. He doesn’t care about me. He said he would hurt me.” Before long, you are your own Public Relations Specialist. “What I said was…he is lying I didn’t say that…when I wrote this I was merely trying to say…you are taking my words out of context!” But the convicted spirit as some believers might call this kind of person is angry and his or her job is to get you just as angry and frustrated as he or she. “Take back what you said! Do me a favor don’t call or come around me anymore! How dare you say that about me…you call yourself a child of God?” The confused person may even curse you or threaten to do bodily harm to you depending on how much the truth hurts. He or she will tell you they don’t like your tone and “you think you are better than everyone else.” They may even orchestrate a campaign using family, friends or co-workers to go against you all because they don’t like what you have warned, rebuked, or outright scolded them about.

Recall some times in your own life when you didn’t want to hear the truth yourself. You may have agreed with some things the messenger said. Then later you may have found fault with what they told you. Then by the time you went to sleep that night you were thinking about what you should have said and accused them of being “mean or disrespectful.” By morning, after not getting a good night sleep, you are on the phone gossiping about the person and thinking of a way to ruin his or her reputation. As mentioned before and so the old adage goes, “The truth hurts.”

There will be times that the truth will be delivered loving and kindly, but not all the time. Your partner may be mindful of your feelings because he or she knows you well, but your boss, friends and the strangers on the street won’t. The writings that you read online will not always be sensitive, sweet and polite. Although there are people in this world who boast about political correctness, the truth isn’t always going to come across in the way you feel like it should be delivered no matter who you are how much money you have or who you know. As your parents may have told you years ago, “That’s life baby!” You can’t expect the world to coddle you and take you by the hand and say, “Oh poor baby…do this for mommy…”

People don’t want to hear the truth because it doesn’t feel good all the time especially when it comes from a particular race or gender they don’t like. “How dare that woman say that? What does a Jew, a black or a white know about me?” These are popular distractions people use to digress from the truth. They may spend hours debating about something that is irrelevant to the truth. Sometimes the messenger has to bring them back to the point of the conversation almost ten times before they finally say, “Oh, I didn’t know you wanted me to do…was that the point you were trying to make? Sorry, I misunderstood.”

Some people will listen to certain parts of the truth usually the kind that are pleasant then close their ears to the rest. They will commit to doing something that doesn’t require much effort on their part with the expectation that what they get back in return will be much more than what they put in the feat. Sounds selfish, but that’s the truth.

They are afraid of what they may have to sacrifice. They think, “What will I have to give up in order for things to get better in my life? If they expect me to stop doing this or doing that…I don’t think I can.” They may stay awake all night wondering, what others may find out if they start doing things differently. No one wants their weaknesses exposed, but sometimes in order for differences to be made in one’s life what is in darkness must come to light as the Christian’s Bible preaches.

I can recall times when accepting truth wasn’t easy for me, but I managed to when I weighed the benefits with the consequences. I noticed at times those around me like family, friends and co-workers were not always willing to go along with the truth. There were times some stopped talking to me because of it. Whether the truth came in the form of spirituality or a simple statement of honesty that exposed a lie, those who were accustomed to controlling, manipulative and lying behaviors would not bend. They were unwilling to tell the truth no matter who got hurt in the process. Some people just want to hear about “how great, how good” something is and what they stand to gain, but they don’t want to hear about what they need to do and that there are no rewards or praises.

If you haven’t been insulted, ridiculed, abused, or even scammed yet online, don’t worry its coming. If you haven’t been so moved by what someone wrote that it made you say things that you shouldn’t have said, well that’s coming too. If you haven’t felt overwhelmed with grief yet because every account you checked online didn’t give you enough money to buy gas for your car, well get ready because that’s coming. Lastly, if you haven’t ever been at the peak of success and fell, well that’s coming too. The question I have for you is this, “When God sends his messengers to tell you what to do in your life to make some changes to get back on your feet: Will your heart race and heat rise to your cheeks while you think of what insulting thing you could say to your God-sent messenger, angel, relative, friend or stranger? Will you fall down on the floor like a toddler having a tantrum? Will you yell obscenities, tell lies and curse the messenger to their face or behind their back to anyone who will listen?


Nicholl McGuire is the author of Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic

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They smile in your face and talk about you behind your back. They lie, swear, and even shed a tear when they are caught doing wrong.  These are your family members and they believe themselves to be right.  It is your fault for this or that.  You are not the favorite.  You are an enemy when you stand up for yourself. 

I validate you on all your family challenges, this is why I wrote the following books, so please do check them out.  Feel free to like, comment, leave reviews,share links, do whatever you can to help someone begin the process of getting free out of emotional and/or physical abuse brought on by family members. 

 

Much love for you, I am praying for readers, viewers of YouTube NM Enterprise 7 and others, God is with you when you call on Him to fight your battles, lighten your load, and give you the strength and courage to stand up against the enemy or enemies.  Read Psalm 91.

 

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These non-fiction books are available on other sites so check around if you would prefer a printed book rather than an eBook or would like to shop at a different store. 

Enjoy my work and blessings to you!

 

 

Nicholl McGuire

 

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How To Communicate With Difficult People You Need To Help You

“Thou shall love thy neighbor…” according to the Christian Bible.  Yet, when we watch television, listen to the conversations of strangers and read the newspaper, there isn’t too much loving each other happening.  Some of us will attempt to show love by doing thoughtful things for friends, family, co-workers and strangers and at times it seems our efforts are in vain.  Establishing quality relationships with people aren’t easy for everyone.   Further an even greater challenge when trying to communicate with difficult people who don’t return thoughtful actions.  How do we manage to build relationships with difficult people we may need in the future, although they may not seem to care too much about us?

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1. Know who you are trying to impress.  Is he or she really difficult or is that office gossip?  Is Uncle Mark really a hard person to deal with or did someone in the family say that because they couldn’t get what they wanted from him?  Listen to what people say, but avoid the temptation to prematurely judge them before you get to know them.

 

2. Know your limits.  If you want to impress upon someone that you need them in your personal or professional life, then know how far you would like to take the relationship before you spend time meeting with them, doing favors, talking on the phone, visiting, sending letters and buying gifts.  You do not want to invest time in someone who may or may not help you in the future.

3. Watch out for other opportunists.  The one that you may be seeking to make an impression just might need you for something as well--that would be perfect; however, there is the possibility that they may only be using you to get what they want.  Find out what their plans are by knowing what their role is in the company, what they have accomplished in the past and with whom do they spend their personal time.

 

4. Set boundaries.  The rules that you create for yourself when communicating with individuals should not include any negativity.  Define what you will and will not say before you begin conversing with him or her.

5. Be careful of those around them.  People who we are trying to impress will always have a favorite friend, family member or someone around them that is extremely loyal.  He or she has made their selves responsible for the one you are trying to impress.  The rule of thumb here is to make a good impression on the loyal associates as well.  How you do it is up to you.  You will have to study the people around them, because as you may already know, they are studying you.

 

6. Be a power persuader. What this means is to communicate to the one you are trying to impress how relating to you will be in their best interest.  You will have to know what you have to offer.  For example, if a man wants to date a woman, he will take the time to find out what she likes in a man while recreating who he is based on what she wants.  Although this tactic has burned a lot of men later in the relationship, because they took out far too much of who they are and could not maintain the act, it certainly helps to at least provide some benefits.

 

7. Stay focused. If you know that this person is actually taking an interest in who and what you are representing, then make them feel as if they are the only one.  Don’t provide any indication that you may drop them and go off with someone else.  This type of behavior not only occurs in intimate relationships where cheating occurs, but also with family members and co-workers. Tom needs Uncle Mark’s assistance with his car.  Uncle Mark helps him.  Tom needs another favor.  Uncle Mark can’t help immediately, but would like for Tom to come over to watch the game, then he will help him later.  Tom passes on the offer and tells Uncle Mark he will ask someone else.  He calls Uncle Pete instead while bad mouthing Uncle Mark about not helping him.  Do you see the problem?  Now think of an example similar to this that occurs at your workplace.

 

8.  Remember to say thank you. There is etiquette to saying these words in various ways.  A simple thank you mouthed for a simple task is nice and appreciated.  However, when people have come together to show you support, you want to keep them close.  Do a little something for everyone, taking one day at a time or simply buy a stack of thank you cards, pencils, candies, etc.  These people may be able to help you get closer to what you want if you just acknowledged them.  Your kind deeds may also get to that difficult person you are trying to impress as well and may help you establish credibility with he or she in the future.

9. Don’t take reactions personally.  People have bad days.  Eye-rolling, head swinging, deep sighing and other similar body language may not have anything to do with you; therefore don’t take it personal.  Be polite. Say what you need to say.  Allow them to come back to you with any questions or comments.

10. Keep your promises.  If you make an appointment, keep it and show up early.  Don’t spend time talking about yourself.  Avoid making meaningless statements of flattery, talking quickly, in excess and interrupting a lot. 

Once you receive that long awaited meeting with this difficult person, remember to do the following:  If he or she is a professional…

 

• When selling an idea, have a plan outlined on paper being sure that it is detailed, grammatically correct and has a timeline. 
• Mention who will be working with you, benefits to the company and how much it will cost and how it will be financially supported. 
• Add short and long-term goals and what impact your plan will make on the future.  If he or she is a personal acquaintance.
• Be open to answering questions, provide thoughtful answers, watch how you speak and what you say. 
• Avoid rushing into exactly what you want unless asked.  Instead, talk about what you can provide then lead in to what you need.  Be sure that what you are requesting they will not feel as if you are asking far too much for what you are willing to give.  Be ready to compromise.

Nicholl McGuire author of What Else Can I Do on the Internet?