Sunday, February 3, 2013

Pervert

For certain men whose condemnation was written about long ago have secretly slipped in among you. They are godless men, who change the grace of our God into a license for immorality and deny Jesus Christ our only Sovereign and Lord. Jude 1:4
 
 

As believers, we are called to be more than conquerors through Him who strengthens us. Jesus gave his all so that we might be saved from a certain eternal death. How great to be chosen by an awesome God who so generously pours out his mercy upon us sinful human beings. But for those who pervert the gospel of Christ and do perverted things that keep themselves and others away from Christ, woe to them!

Perverts don’t stand a chance of maintaining a close walk with the Lord, not in this life or the next one. Rather, Satan saps them of their energy to live righteously, while falsely promising that if one does despicable things he will attain power. In time, the perverted one's mind worsens mentally and physically, because of the weight of guilt and the fear of repercussions as a result of harming other human beings.

Think of the sheer number of diseased people who became that way due to living lifestyles that were unclean, immoral, wicked, and more. Too sick to clean a house, maintain good hygiene, stay sexually pure, and do other basic things that would help them live a blessed life, they reason that evil is good and good is evil. God uses many messengers and helpers to assist the hurting and confused; however, it is up to them to ultimately do as God wills. A sincere love for the spiritually lost must come from the Most High, so that he might wash away prejudice, bitterness and anger toward the perverted ones.

Many sinners come to the realization that there is more to life besides just daily living and so they seek a higher power to rescue them out of their mess. For some believers when they find themselves in a lowly place spiritually in life, they know to come back to the Father so that he can renew their minds and ultimately restore their faith. But those who find that nothing seems right with the world and everyone or everything seems to be against them, they will look to the tempter to fulfill their needs. From the sexual pervert to the liar, people who have chosen to abandon their morals and do what they think is right will have to answer, not only to God nearing the end of their life spans, but family, friends, doctors, lawyers, law enforcement, and others too. They will have to give an account as to why they did something evil, immoral and the like both publicly and privately—shameful secrets that the perverted man or woman would never want favorite relatives and best friends to know about.

In my life, I have attracted perverts of all shapes, sizes, and skin hues because at times they found me approachable, and of course, when one is living foul, well he or she will attract like minds. Before I gave my life to Christ, I was in atmospheres where the perverted paraded around and where men and women could care less about God. The devil comes as a light, bearing promises that lead many men, women and children on paths straight to hell. It doesn’t matter how nice something or someone looks or how good that person or thing makes you feel, when God warns, “It’s not right.” You ought to believe, it’s not right.

A perverted man or woman can talk nicely, dress expensively, and have more connections then you or I can name, but underneath the exterior, can be cold as ice. Think of the many people who are murdered daily because they trusted someone they thought liked, loved or cared about them. I’m sure one of the lures an enemy used to get someone to fall into his or her hands was simply a smile.

So I have learned over the years, there is a story behind a man’s or woman’s smile, the degenerate is in a poor, sad, or depressed state of mind. He seeks women who can “brighten my day.” He desires a life void of spirituality, because in his mindset, to trust in a Creator is a sign of weakness. He has spent years building the foundation of his being on selfish needs and wants. No matter what nice deed anyone does for him “it isn’t enough…not right…doesn’t work.”

Whatever wise thing you say, the spiritually poor will always find a way to distort the truth. Anything meant to better one’s spiritual condition they look for ways to dilute its power and get you to go along with their weak state of mind. From so-called intelligent philosophies to twisted statements created to deceive the listener, the one who wishes to share his perverted lifestyle is going to convince you why it is right and yours is wrong. He is going to argue his point before you can get your facts straight. In addition, he will enlist the help of his affiliation to orchestrate a plan that will make you feel bad for going against his point of view. The bullied becomes the bully. Rather than deal with his issues fair and square, he is going to connect with individuals who are ignorant of his true plans to get the majority to go along with whatever he believes is right--no matter how crazy, sick, or strange.

The pervert covers up his true intent by standing behind causes that don’t necessarily affect him, but he will use these to get others to change their way of thinking to benefit him. While writing this, I am thinking of a billboard that talks about real men wearing pink and how the marketers linked this message to breast cancer awareness, but the true intent behind the marketing campaign is to get macho men to accept men who like wearing the color pink ie.) football players wearing pink tennis shoes, hats, etc. Therefore, deceptively certain agendas are being embraced via mind control such as the blending of both male and female genders where there is no longer a line that separates the two.

A pervert with a distorted view on reality makes his or her strange ways something to be admired, respected, and emulated by others. Do you recognize this sort of behavior happening in our modern day Sodom and Gomorrah—the United States? You do recall what happened to those biblical towns, in time they were destroyed, just something to think about.

Think of a time when you were in the presence of one who was mentally or physically ill. Doctors may have told you that since your last visit, the person’s health had declined. What did you do? You most likely prayed and asked others to say a prayer for your loved one. With a degenerate, he or she is like the person in the hospital bed, the individual has become ill over time. Something was going on inside him or her long before ailing health showed up for all to see. The signs were all around the ill person prior to something going wrong with him or her, but rather than get some help; instead, this person carries on with his or her message, “I am well, but you are sick!” That is until he is the one ill and you are the one looking on in good health. Now the tears come and the “I’m so sorry, I didn’t know what I was thinking. I thought what I was doing was right. Why couldn’t I admit that what I was doing was wrong?” Being that God is a merciful and righteous judge, one who confesses sin and comes to repentance will turn from his or her wicked ways; however, one must accept Jesus as his or her personal Savior to be saved.

However, don’t believe the unchanged perverted ones when they make false claims and excuses like, “I didn’t know…I wasn’t aware that XYZ would happen. I didn’t think I was sinning.” Something in one’s heart knows when one is doing wrong whether he or she has a faith or not.  This person will just ignore the red alert signs and keep right on doing what he or she likes to do irregardless of how their wicked ways might affect others. I think of those who have ate other humans, had sex with objects, did detestable things to animals, and more.  You can’t convince me that they never saw a sign or felt something that told them, “This isn’t right, I need to stop.” We have all been tempted by someone or something that just wasn’t right even though many might have said, “Oh, that’s alright…you should look at this…and taste that!” For some of us, we fell in the traps and it might have took a moment, days, weeks, or even years to break us from the devil’s curses.

Many challenges come up in the lives of those who are sexually perverted or have other twisted morals, yet rather than deal with the issues in healthy ways, the immoral will fight with anyone who rebukes them for their wrong-doing. “What do you know? Who do you think you are? You use to do the same thing, how can you tell me anything! I like what I do and no one can tell me different! Worry about yourself! Don’t pray for me!” the angry pervert defends his or her habits.

Degenerates know that their sinful ways caused a situation or some “thing” to happen, but for some, when their backs are up against the wall, they will say, “It was him who made me do it…if it wasn’t for my childhood, I would have never done that thing…It wasn’t me who did that bad thing, it was my other personality.” So the gullible will take pity and unfortunately get sucked in to some of the pervert’s trappings. Some immoral individuals secretly know that they have no intention of ever giving up a perverted mindset and because of that, they are the hardest to reach. “I don’t need you to talk to me. I am not like you, I am not strong. God doesn’t care about me, so why do you? I am not changing for you or no one else!” the perverted man or woman screams.

In a strange way, a degenerate’s ways will affect some curious people positively, because maybe they secretly wanted to do what the pervert boldly does, but could never do it.  But because the pervert stepped out there and did wrong things, one's curiosity is somehow satisfied and he or she tells self, "So glad I didn't go down that path, look what happened to her/him?"  Unfortunately, some saved and unsaved individuals will go along with the pervert’s program anyway and if he is one in a powerful position, he or she will reward his or her supporters with promotion, accolades, fame, sex, power, and other things just so long as they keep on participating in the kind of perverse activities that the degenerate enjoys. But a pervert knows that not all will go along with his or her immoral ways; therefore, there will be a backlash and he or she usually prepares for others’ objections by: making threats, taking opportunities away, damaging reputations, or worse murdering those who might potentially expose him or her.

Whether the pervert is on the job, at home, in a church, or visiting with a friend, someone or something will warn, “You might not want to do this, not a good idea, change this, do that, or avoid this.” But one who is not ready to give up a disgusting lifestyle will continue to make excuses and fight critics until the day he or she dies.

It is ultimately up to the perverts to do something about their issues before they worsen to the point that there is no way that they will have a place in heaven. One must confess sin, repent, and don’t go back to a lifestyle that is void of a Creator and his precepts.


Solution


When you recognize one who has gone from being a pleasant person to one who is sad or depressed as a result of a perverted lifestyle, behavior, etc., ask what might be going on with him or her. If this person claims everything is okay and chooses not to reveal any personal truths, don’t badger him or her for an answer. Rather, watch as well as pray. If this person is participating in unlawful misconduct that is bringing misery to you or someone you know, report his or her actions to the necessary authorities.

 If you are the one who is caught in some sort of perverted trapping, do what you can to stop the behavior.  Seek help.  Research your condition and follow wise counsel and above all else pray.  Then remove yourself from the people, places and things that are emotionally, physically and spiritually binding you.  As you know, the one true God (not the Prince of Darkness) doesn’t condone deceit, perversion, and other immoral behaviors.

If you are in a personal relationship with a degenerate/pervert, go to God and seek wisdom on how you might be set free from your burdensome relationship.


A look back…


You might remember a time in your life when people were disturbed by your behaviors ie.) sexual acts and attire, eating habits, unclean body and household, social life, etc. You were most likely angered by their reactions and defended your sin. Keep in mind that when you approach a degenerate with truth, don’t be so quick to condemn him or her. Ask questions, listen, direct him or her to the Bible and to help, then create distance so that you might not be tempted to sin.


Scripture Reference


Proverbs 7:21-22

Genesis 19:5-8

1 Corinthians 5:1-13

Galatians 5

Romans 1:18-32

Matthew 18:15


Prayer


Dear Lord, I pray this day that you will remove the temptation within me to commit acts that would not be pleasing to you. I ask that you give me the strength to remove all things in my atmosphere that do not glorify you or help me mentally, physically and spiritually. Lord, I confess sin (list your deeds) and I repent of my evil ways. Have mercy on me. Remove lustful thoughts and images from my mind and put in me a clean heart that desires to perform righteous deeds. Most Holy One, cause me to not encourage others to talk or act sinfully or do the kinds of things that would send them on a path to hell. I also pray for those who have hurt me in the past, help me to forgive my foes. Please show them the error of their ways and move on their hearts and minds to come into a relationship with you. Protect me from future bodily harm and danger. I ask all these things in your Son’s name, Jesus.

Trouble-Maker

When I say unto the wicked, Thou shalt surely die; and thou givest him not warning, nor speakest to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life; the same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand.
Ezekiel 3:18
 

Your brother or sister in Christ might be a troublemaker for all the wrong reasons! Angry because all her relationships ended in failure, bitter because her childhood wasn’t like the rest, miserable due to health issues, and upset with the church. So the unforgiving and jealous single woman creates a women’s organization that preaches an “off with his head” kind of gospel. Although this is a mere example, the disturbing part to consider is there may be someone who is leading in your home, at church, or in the workplace who secretly feels like the angry single woman.

In this next example, we have a bitter, married man who can’t seem to get along with fellow Christian men, so he makes a mockery of these men on a daily radio program. Meanwhile, he attempts to get men to come together and work out their differences in a social group he heads. However, he is often guilty of using the struggles of these men in his comedic story-telling.

In both of the previous mentioned examples, these troublemakers have in the closet issues that are masked in such a way that appear like they are helping others when the fact is they are recruiting future trouble-makers, people ready to argue or joke about important matters stirring up trouble in such a way so that they appear like they are in control, reputable and likeable because they so-called speak truth or “keep it real”. Most often men and women who partner with angry and bitter people turn out to have many ways that look like their leaders and they eventually struggle with similar demons.

There are those people who say they do not start trouble. They will not witness to anyone about God, share their personal beliefs, attend a church, help a brother or sister when they see they need assistance, or visit any family members or friends because they fear they might be mixed up in someone else’s drama. This sort of behavior we expect from the unsaved and the backslider, but when people act like this who claim to be Christ believers, you have to question whether or not these people sincerely trust in the Lord like they claim. But if one is indeed a true believer, he or she will permit God to have his way in his or her life and do whatever God says do. However, the truth is we have more Jonahs and Judas’ in this world than Abrahams and Noahs.

Do you think Jesus would approve of believers who keep silent about issues especially when the devil’s trouble-making minions are around? These “mind my own business” types believe that by living in their homes and not confronting relatives, friends, neighbors, co-workers and others on wrongs, they aren’t starting any trouble; therefore they must be living right. But the truth is some of these people are starting trouble when they act silently on wrongdoing. They are no better than the critic who finds fault with them just for sitting at home! “I won’t call the police on those people, because…well I don’t know if they might shoot up my house, the noise ain’t so bad. I don’t want to be bothered with her kids, because I have enough issues of my own. I don’t like those folks over there—you know what they say about their culture. That’s why I mind my own business!” the so-called Christ follower says. No making trouble and trouble won’t follow you unless that is what some believe until it shows up unexpectedly in one’s front yard.

A partner has repeatedly done something to offend, so a loved one reasons, “I’ll just be quiet, I don’t want to talk to him about it because I know how he is.” A child keeps making the same mistakes in school, a parent says, “I don’t want to hear her sassy mouth today, so I will just hope for the best.” Notice in these two examples, one is in trouble or making trouble and those who should be talking won’t. I have to ask again, “Where is the believer’s faith?” Prayer helps, but confrontation exposes the foolishness and moves one to make changes or else.

Some Christ followers may live their lives seemingly peaceful, but be guilty of making unrighteous comments via phone, email, or a social networking site about fellow brothers and sisters, the unsaved, lost and confused while claiming they aren’t trouble-makers. These people who mind everyone else’s business (but their own), may start a conversation with anyone they believe will support them on their opinions. They hope to gain support when talking about others’ weaknesses. By doing this, they deflect from their personal challenges. However, the God we serve has an interesting way of exposing the prideful whether with them or through the one’s they love. “My mother says she doesn’t make any trouble, but the truth is, she is always saying something negative to someone. My uncle claims that he loves the Lord, but just the other day he was yelling at all of us for the littlest of things, yet he says he doesn’t bother anyone.” Is anyone saying this about you or have you noticed someone like this in your circle?

Other troublemakers, who could also be described as pessimistic critics of the faith, typically lack good communication skills and often become emotional when one is trying to convey a point about the Lord. They refuse to admit that their criticism of others and discouraging words are causing more harm than good. The wayward Christian justifies arguing with a friend over a trivial matter. The unbelieving spouse finds fault with everyone but himself; meanwhile accuses others of trouble-making. When asked a question about one’s belief system, the critic will respond in a negative tone of voice. These same people, who claim not to start fights, wouldn’t be so quick-tongued, angry, or bitter if they were sincerely peacemakers.

The conflict starter who is comfortable with the following: verbally and/or physically fighting, being the center of a conflict, or participating in a tag team with other like-minded fighters, will not only start a fight, but keep it going. They read into everything even when there is nothing to be read! There are still people in this world with good intentions, but a trouble-making critic who isn’t about God’s business isn’t one of them!

The troublemaker looks for wrongs in situations even when a judgment of right or wrong is unnecessary. The wicked will influence one’s mindset to doubt what he or she believes to be true, and overall causes upset in situations that most would normally feel comfortable.

One who purposely makes trouble tends to lack self-control and is oftentimes at war with most people from the man at the deli counter to the police officer who pulls him over for a traffic violation.

The troublemaker might say something like, “What do you think she meant when she said…How did his statement make you feel, I felt like he was trying to make me look like a fool…Do you really think this person really meant nothing by what she said?” If you have watched any reality show, you know that there is always one who appears like he or she is a friend to everyone, but upon closer inspection you notice that the idle woman or man is nothing more than a foe to all who has one objective: to stand out from the rest so that he or she can boost his or her career.

When there are misunderstandings such as when a Christian does the following: prophecies, presents a sermon, instructs a class, shares a book, creates a video, writes text, sends email, records voicemail, or does some other thing people will scrutinize him or her like the Pharisees did Jesus. The critic will suggest that, “He is a false prophet…She doesn’t know what she is talking about…” The more influence the Christian has over the masses, the more criticism. The foe says negative things in an effort to discredit the person and put away truth. Trouble-making individuals pick fights and they prey on the emotionally weak. In Proverbs 15:4 (NIV,) we are advised, “The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.” How many times have we all experienced some degree of criticism from a trouble-making foe who was jealous, bitter, unforgiving, or mean-spirited all because we questioned, exposed, or shared truth?

Discerning individuals should be able to see the critic’s accusations as nothing more than an act of rebellion and unfortunately an attack on the one true God who stands behind his messengers. We should never throw the baby out with the bath water, when listening or reading the works that God inspired his chosen to use to uplift, encourage, teach, and admonish the church body when dealing with troublemakers. Otherwise, we are no better than the trouble-making fool, who is used by Satan, to get believers off track in their missions to perform the Father’s will.

In the Holy Bible, Samuel was faced with some opposition from naysayers who decided to act in petty ways toward him while he was being led by God. According to 1 Samuel 10:25-27, “Then Samuel told the people the manner of the kingdom, and wrote it in a book, and laid it up before the Lord. And Samuel sent all the people away, every man to his house. And Saul also went home to Gibeah; and there went with him a band of men, whose hearts God had touched. But the children of Belial said, How shall this man save us? And they despised him, and brought him no presents. But he held his peace.” Notice he didn’t confront the people, ask what their concerns were, or set up a room for debate. Some of us, when faced with similar petty behavior, know that at times we don’t hold our peace. We want to get all parties together to discuss the issue. The Lord told me, there is a time and a place for everything and not every issue needs to be publically or privately addressed. When we ignore the voice of the Lord and choose to confront those who have offended us anyway, the end result usually is that we are looked at as troublemakers. The critic has a field day when God’s people act like fools! “The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly” (Proverbs 15:2).

Now some people you know may have a legitimate concern about you and your faith; therefore they will ask questions in an attempt to try to make sense of what you said or done that may or may not offended them. Others will specifically look for issues with you for personal reasons such as: unresolved past issues, jealousy, anger and distrust. These critics of your faith may: disagree vehemently with your belief system, have a racial/gender/denomination/social class bias, avoid resolving past issues, don’t manage jealous feelings, have anger management issues, a mental condition, or have far more complicated reasons too long to discuss here.

Sometimes we need only to observe the individual who is doing the questioning concerning our faith. Ask yourself, “Is this person really sincere or is he or she starting trouble?” There is the Jesus kind of troublemaker that spreads biblical doctrine in attempt to help God’s people get deliverance from what troubles them, but then there is the devilish kind of troublemaker that attempts to destroy whatever or whoever is in his or her path. Troublemakers that risk freedom, health and wealth to bring truth to you and I are like Jesus. They shake up systems to get them to conform. They desire change and want to see all benefit, not just themselves. Yet, there are those individuals we must recognize as nothing more than false messengers, prophets, teachers, truth-tellers, and more who want nothing more than to achieve personal gain off the backs of the true freedom fighters. These people must be immediately expelled from your group as soon as you see that they are working for a common foe.

Satan sends demonic spirits specifically designed to get on your nerves or frustrate you when you are trying to do what’s right in your personal and professional lives. Consider when a man or woman speaks before an audience and begins to share the kind of truth that upsets tradition and causes one to question whether he or she is in fact a child of God, there is one in the audience that might cause tension in the air with disrespectful comments because he or she isn’t ready for truth. This is why the heckler, the argumentative type, and the strange are quickly removed from any large gathering. Whether justified troublemaking or not, some are more concerned about bringing attention to themselves then to the issues. Attendees can easily oppose a speaker simply by passing out fliers before or after an event, holding up signs, talking to the media who are present at the gathering, sharing a letter or other documents about an issue, or catching the speaker off guard when he or she isn’t standing before an audience that may or may not go along with what he or she is saying.

Sometimes troublemaking individuals are by design, planted at events, meetings, and elsewhere with the goal to upset progress. These political, spiritual, creative types are paid by some of the most influential and richest men and women in the world to cause mayhem from committing crimes like stealing and murder to doing simpler things like sitting in an audience and making various hand signals that only the speaker knows. If one is unaware that he or she is being followed, pressured, or moved to stop doing what he or she is doing, the heat is turned up until there is no denying that someone or a group doesn’t want the truth, agenda, project, or anything else to take root.

After 40 days of fasting without food or water, do you think Jesus may have been a little irritated with Satan’s statements and tests? Picture this, Jesus peacefully walking in the heat and then in the cold, trying to have some quiet time with his Father and then along comes the evil one talking in his ear. The enemy loves to come with his tests when your flesh is weak. From feelings of loneliness to hunger, your foe will distract you with his or her trouble-making statements and requests, therefore beware!

The enemy who acts nice and sweet in the public eye is usually mean behind closed doors. How do you know? Simply watch the person when under pressure or watch the reaction of a partner or spouse around them. Some of us are so distracted by a nice voice, an attractive physique and a fat wallet that we ignore the red flags. Others are very perceptive of evil and may experience cold chills and other uncomfortable emotions around certain individuals. Feelings of nervousness and fear show up in body language when a spouse, child, or someone closest to the troublemaker is around them. These are good indicators a troublemakers inner circle has a hard time dealing with him or her.

In addition to your observations, try talking to the troublemaker before jumping to conclusions that he or she might be an enemy. Sometimes a troublemaker could simply be someone who is in fact a worker for God but just has a funny way of showing it. Ask yourself, “Is this person acting out God’s will or his or her own?” If we notice the person doing or saying something that causes us to doubt whether this person is a believer or not, then provide tips for a trouble-making critic only when asked; however, don’t volunteer information. You never know what a troublemaker might do with your story, comments, advice, and other information if you are unsure about who this person represents. Ask more questions than comments so that you can find out more about him or her particularly if this person will be working with you. Try to do and say the kind of things that bring out “the best” in this person. One’s true intentions will come to light! Does this person act impatient, irritable, roll eyes or even ignore you despite your trying to be nice? You just may have a trouble-making enemy on your hands.

Let’s say you have a friend who is often offended whenever you ask him or her questions. No matter how nice you converse with this person almost always something is taken out of context. After each conversation, this person goes back to a partner or friend to talk negatively about you just because you rocked the boat with your questions. Now you are considered a troublemaker for rocking the boat and if you should hear that this person doesn’t like you or the things you say, most likely you have a foe!

There are those individuals who we might share our testimonies, revelations, dreams, and other spiritually-related stories; yet we hear from third parties how a relative or friend thinks we are too spiritual, talks too much about one topic or another, and other “too this and too that” statements. We might even learn that a trusted relative or friend is known for frequently exaggerating and lying about not only believers, but others as well. It is obvious that an enemy is in one’s camp making torouble. But what do most Christians do when they are in a situation like this? They try to hold on to their relatives and friends anyway! People who have long turned into enemies, in the hopes that God will miraculously change their evil ways-- don’t count on it! Backsliders and the lost must go to God for help and be committed to be more Christ-like.

Foes can be found in the most respected and religious civic groups and nonprofit organizations. For instance, there are those cliques that refuse to let outsiders in and will not separate from a group in order to become better individuals. They will protest together, gossip, lie, and even murder for one another. They don’t care about what’s in the best interest of the group. Rather, they are more concerned about what they can get for free and for how long. Troublemakers who organize groups that look and act like them and have no moral compass to follow, never spiritually grow. They can’t be broken up unless someone inside the group betrays the others. As long as they remain tightly bonded, a messenger of God can warn the group until he or she is blue in the face to stop doing certain negative activities and saying evil things, but as long as they have their supportive network of trouble-making, they will not budge.

Troublemakers, who are caught alone with no group to back them up, are no match for a child of God gifted in discernment and wise beyond his or her years. They will cower when confronted, back-peddle, and try to make light of what was said or done. These conflict starters may even lie just so that they don’t have to keep talking about what they did or didn’t do in front of you. God reveals who these people are when we ask this of him. Usually troublemakers will expose themselves simply by all their negative talk about others. Keep away from people such as this, they can be conniving and will do almost anything to save face especially when it comes to obtaining favor and money from others who they believe can benefit them in some way.

People who claim they don’t like to fight and prefer peace over arguments should also be observed. Their fruits will reveal whether they are trustworthy or not. How would you use a process of elimination to avoid getting someone on your team that talks out of two sides of their neck, in other words, a wishy-washy person? You would pray, wouldn’t you? While waiting on the Lord. But you would also test the spirits in the meantime too. Can you rely on a troublemaker to handle matters of importance in a diplomatic way? Of course not. What most likely will happen if you should let an unstable minded person, who claims peace over fighting, on your team is a double agent. He or she will work for you and the foes.

Keep in mind, there are those who are warriors for Christ—those who aren’t afraid to fight for righteousness. These people are troublemakers for the right reasons. As mentioned earlier, Jesus was considered a troublemaker in his time. But those who claim to be Christ followers may not be so reliable when it comes down to fighting a spiritual war with an evil prinicipality. The cowards will most likely flip flop, find excuses as to why they can’t be present, or pretend as if no problem exists. You can’t include people like this on your team when it comes to casting out demons, praying for the sick, performing God-inspired tasks, etc. Their fear will bring on trouble. Like a dog, Satan detects fear and he will use it to divide Christians. Today the troublemaker in your camp may preach peace, but tomorrow he may unexpectedly start World War III. Next week he may say, “Let’s call a truce,” but then underhandedly start a war by the following week.

In Numbers 12:1-2 (NIV), Miriam and Aaron opposed Moses because he married a wife who was not Jewish. Keep in mind, they are supposed to be on the same team—believers about God’s business, right? So why would Moses’ decision have any impact on them? They feared or worried about something they didn’t understand. According to the Bible, “Miriam and Aaron began to talk against Moses because of his Cushite wife, for he had married a Cushite. Has the Lord spoken only through Moses, they asked. “Hasn’t he also spoken through us?” God heard this conversation and showed up “in a pillar of cloud.” (v.5) Notice God confronted them, he didn’t just let the conversation go. Then he said the following in verses 6-8, “Listen to my words: When a prophet of the Lord is among you, I reveal myself to him in visions, I speak to him in dreams. But this is not true of my servant Moses; he is faithful in all my house. With him I speak face to face, clearly and not in riddles; he sees the form of the Lord. Why then were you not afraid to speak against my servant Moses?” The Scripture says, “The anger of the Lord burned against them and he left them.” (v.9) Miriam and Aaron were offended by Moses’ actions, but what they failed to realize that their leader was God-appointed. Sometimes as believers we consider those who do things that aren’t typically what we would do in situations “wrong, troublemakers, dumb…” but you have to watch criticizing God’s ordained.

The enemy is sensitive, emotional, and easily offended when he is confronted. Miriam didn’t escape punishment for voicing her opinion about Moses’ deeds, she was struck with leprosy. There are consequences we all can potentially face for talking against those that are sincerely walking with the Lord and being obedient to his will. This is why it is best to be quiet when there is no evidence or proof that says that someone’s deeds will in fact threaten our missions. Moses and Aaron asked God to heal her, but he didn’t grant their requests in their time. Rather, Miriam was afflicted with the disease for seven days and removed from the camp (Numbers 12:10-15). Had this woman kept quiet and watched first while praying about Moses situation, in time she might have seen what God wanted her to see. We have all been guilty of doing something similar in our lives, jumping to conclusions about one’s intent, actions, etc. without getting all the details first. When we open our mouths about things we don’t understand and attempt to get others to jump on the bandwagon, we then become the troublemakers that we have accused others of being.

Troublemakers will proclaim peace when their words are really meant to start a war over the littlest of things. Our foe is still very much a child in a grown up’s body. The enemy refuses to do good unless his actions will benefit him in some way toward his goals of causing trouble particularly for Christ believers. Those who work for the devil aren’t sincerely interested in the things of God. Rather, they prefer to glorify self. Troublemakers’ fleshly needs oftentimes override their spiritual ones.

You may have a foe right now who doesn’t like the way you dress, your breath, how short or tall you are, maybe you are too fat or too thin, not the right skin tone, or have something else that is bothersome to him or her, so he or she will talk about you to others or “keep it real” by telling you in person how they feel about you. But the truth is, the troublemaker is being used by Satan to make you feel bad about yourself to keep you from having the confidence and strength you need to start or complete an assignment God has in store for you. There is a way to communicate that doesn’t make any of us hurt so badly emotionally that we never want to be in a fellow brother or sister’s presence again. That way is simply being mindful of what we say and how we say it while keeping in mind that God is watching and listening.

When your foe is determining whether you will be a good match for his or her team, family, or group, he or she will test you to see if “you are my kind of girl or guy...” You ever hear anyone brag about someone who is blunt or harsh with the use of his or her words? “I like her…she keeps it real! I like him…he will go there…” the troublemaker brags.

When some people have legitimate concerns and question actions that go against the word of God like, “Why should we do this? Why not try that? Is that even righteous? What’s with taking oaths and praying to strange gods?” They are hushed. The enemy doesn’t like your questioning his or her thoughts no matter how foolish they sound. Now you are considered the troublemaker!

Let’s say you are at a family function, on the job or at home then suddenly your cell phone rings, someone sends you an email, and before you know it, the exchange between yourself and the individual goes from a “nice to hear from you” to thoughts of wishing you had never answered your phone or read your email. Those in conflict are usually already at war with someone or a group, but their calling on you for help is just one way of recruiting you to side with them. Troublemakers seek to create a team of people who will support them whether right or wrong as mentioned earlier. From flippant remarks to eye rolls, the conflict lover lets everyone know he or she doesn’t like someone or something. When he or she is confronted about his or her negative reaction, this person will pretend like they “don’t want any trouble.” It is evident that the conflict lover wants something, because why would he or she say or do anything that would upset self, you or others who may be around listening to his or her conversation in the first place? Start trouble and you will get what is coming to you.

Think of someone you know who frequently criticizes you whether to your face or behind your back whenever you ask this person for assistance. Despite the critic’s reasons for so-called “helping you” the truth is this individual doesn’t know how to assist you in peace, so now the “charity case” is talked about negatively. Let me be more specific with my point. For instance, let’s think of someone you know right now who is often trying to help others out of their dilemmas. But there are those days, when this seemingly generous person may not have any idea what really to say to these “needy individuals” they may have agreed to help when for any number of reasons, he or she can’t. Rather than just say, “I’m sorry I couldn’t help you like I promised,” they start complaining about how everyone wants something from them. “I’m not talking about you,” the trouble-making critic says. “I’m talking about other people. People act like I can just pull money off of trees!” It isn’t the needy people’s fault that one has over extended his or her self or has personal obligations that leave this person feeling stressed. But to this overwhelmed troublemaker, you and everyone else are a thorn in his or her spine. Can you really call this person kind-hearted, generous and personable? If you don’t want any trouble from a trouble-making critic, don’t ask him or her to assist you with anything!

An atmosphere that is conflict free is considered boring to troublemakers. They don’t know how to let things go even when some issues have nothing to do with them! They piggyback off of other’s life frustrations in the hope to look better despite their own personal drama with those closest to them.

Usually, individuals who have been raised around arguing, fussing and fighting, re-create drama by making a mountain out of a mole hill, so to speak, and talking about other people’s dramas by making statements like, “If that were me...I wouldn’t take that…who does she think she is…?” They add a few cuss words for effect and the next thing you know everyone who listens to them is disturbed in their spirits. People who are already emotional, nervous, have health conditions, or overwhelmed with responsibilities don’t make any, if very little time, for troublemakers. Those who are close to the Lord know that having regular conversations with such critics will not uplift them spiritually, but tear them down!


Troublemakers desire to war with believers. They thrive on conflict.


How many times have you been in conflict with people and don’t remember how you got there? All disputes start off with a little comment here, an insulting remark made there, and before long you or they are yelling, crying, or running away. It’s sad when you know your intentions were good initially, but somehow the devil got involved and made them look ugly. Yet, even in discourse, God’s messages will still come shining through; otherwise there wouldn’t be any conviction for the individual, now would there? Don’t worry over “blowing it this time.” Just repent to God, apologize if you acted out of character, and be more selective of the conversation you might have with this person next time. Unbelievers and backsliders usually take on a defensive stance (particularly with believers) when something within them is being stirred toward changing a bad habit or belief system.

You may recall a time when you shared something about the Bible with someone and before long they were insulting you with statements like, “Here we go again! I remember when you were out in the world, now you call yourself a Christian!” he says. “You believe all that stuff--it’s all fairytales! Man created the Bible so that he could control his sheep…” Now while you are hearing these offensive statements being said about your faith, your insides are churning, your heart is probably rapidly beating and if you are a new believer, you might be ready for a good verbal fight! In your mind, you are on fire for the Lord and you are determined to make the unbeliever hear the truth. Well unfortunately, before you give yourself a headache in the future, your speeches may not go over too well with a self-appointed troublemaker. By the end of your conversation with him or her, you may be walking away while crying out to God, “Help me!” Don’t be so hard on yourself, you can’t win them all! Be like Jesus, don’t stay anywhere too long with troublemakers. Say what needs to be said and on to the next house, next city, next state, or next country.

Foes can get on fire for the devil (notice I didn’t say Holy Ghost fire) especially when you provoke them with too much truth they aren’t quite ready to handle. They may attack if God didn’t give you the green-light to express a concern at that particular moment. The difficult person will also look for you to act irate, irritable, and irresponsible (notice each word begins with the letter “i” that’s the problem!) Whenever “I” comes to the forefront of your mind during a debate, you just might be digging a hole for yourself with a troublemaker. Too much “you” and that can be a problem too, best to avoid arguing with unreasonable individuals.

In 1 Samuel 1:4, Hannah was a woman who had a closed womb. During Old Testament times, when a woman could not conceive she was considered a failure. Hannah was often ridiculed by her rival because of this. However, her husband gave her double portions of meat because he loved her. The NIV Bible says, “…her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. This went on year after year” (I Samuel 1:6-7). Hannah would cry, eat and was depressed about her situation. The Bible says, “In bitterness of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the Lord” (I Samuel 1:10). In time, God answered Hannah’s prayer and she conceived Samuel (I Samuel 1:19-20). When we are under great distress due to an enemy, we must cry out to the Lord for deliverance. “My heart rejoices in the Lord; in the Lord my horn is lifted high. My mouth boasts over my enemies, for I delight in your deliverance….” (I Samuel 2:1).

If you should lose your cool, critics may follow up with a few angry outbursts saying things like, “So you call yourself a Christian…I never met Christians who act like you!” In their eyes, they don’t believe Christians should get angry. They see believers as gentle, kind, sweet, and naive. We know that those flattering words truly don’t describe the full character of a soldier for Christ. There will be times when anger will come upon you, but it must be directed appropriately. In the Bible, we read about Jesus being angry with the money-changers in the temple, but he didn’t sin (John 2:15). Jesus took his anger out on the vendors’ tables, rather than on the vendors themselves. If some of us had been in a similar situation, some people would have walked out of there with two black eyes, broken ribs and more. God would be very displeased with us and even worse we would be hauled off to jail.

When we are upset with the critics for their deliberate tactics to knock us off our walk with God, we have to use our anger toward positive action instead of negative reaction. For instance, when unbelievers throw away spiritual literature you share with others or derail your efforts to spread the gospel, don’t sit down and grovel about it! Create more fliers announcing church events, write more letters to stop in-justices, build more websites and blogs, organize more protests, and schedule more meetings to make necessary changes. In other words, continue to expose wrongdoing without ceasing! Stop giving to causes that misappropriate funds and give to your own ministry that God has called you to work! The most powerful message of all when dealing with troublemakers is silence. Walk away from angry, combative people, but be sure your back is covered before turning around! The enemy doesn’t know what to do when you aren’t standing in front of him or her running your mouth and speaking loudly like he or she does with you.


Solution:

 
According to Proverbs 22:24-25, Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go, lest you learn his ways, and set a snare for your soul.


A look back…


You may remember times when you were ready for a good debate and you prepared for it by having everything you could imagine in your mind with the intent of belittling your victims. So you thought of those moments they wronged you and others, you planned to bring up some secrets they told you to hurt them, so they would feel really bad about hurting you.

As Christians, we must be careful arguing with troublemakers and bringing up their past. You can’t very well win someone to Christ with that kind of reaction. Despite how far removed they are from God, the trouble-making critics’ information should remain confidential. The enemy will tempt you to share details with flattery, bribes, and more, don’t.

If situations, like what has been mentioned in this chapter ever happened to you, how did you deal with your enemy?
 
 
When talking about your faith with a troublemaker keep in mind, you don’t want the sinner not to come to God because of your fire and brimstone gospel mixed with your angry temperament. Remember you were once like the trouble-making critic (and for some of you reading this, you still are). There were people who you met since giving your life to Christ that have been kind, sincere, loving, and patient—hold on to those experiences and mimic them, according to God’s will.
Scripture Reference
Proverbs 22:10
Proverbs 29:22
Philippians 2:14
James 1:20
Prayer
Help me Lord to speak the right words at the right time. Remind me to stay in control of my emotions and give me the strength to walk away when I am tempted to want to argue in Jesus name.

Fault Finder

These are murmurers, complainers, walking after their own lusts; and their mouth speaketh great swelling words, having men's persons in admiration because of advantage. Jude 1:16
 

Anytime a person experiences something that stimulates his or her five senses (taste, touch, see, hear, smell, and feel) he or she has to tell someone about it. “Did you know…Have you heard…Did you try?” Well people will do this same thing when it comes to one’s relationship with Christ. He or she must tell someone about one’s spiritual experience, invite others to visit a certain church, and encourage them to do other spiritually related things. We also see evidence of this in the Scriptures. Disciples traveled far and wide to spread the gospel. They were ridiculed and tortured for their beliefs and were faced with government ordinances designed to keep their mouths shut about Christ.

 
When your enemy can’t shut you up, he or she is going to find faults with you and your ministry. Then this person may use those closest to you to get you to be less vocal, consider a different way of doing things, and hopefully get you to think like he or she whether right or wrong. These may seem like petty attacks against your walk with the Lord, but they are attacks that are designed to systematically get you to doubt your faith, to slow you down when it comes to doing the things of God and eventually get you to sin so that you will be filled with regrets and have no desire to want to work for God again. While you are feeling at an all-time-low, those that you were ministering to will either continue to seek after the Lord or will abandon their faith, because your faults will appear greater than the holy teachings.

The difficult person determined to destroy your reputation for one reason or another will remind you of your past, talk about the way you look, discuss the way you treat or mistreat relatives and friends, how you spend your money, your social affiliations, your interests, the places you visit during your free time and so on all because he or she doesn’t want to receive a truth that God may have inspired you to share. The more information an enemy knows about you, the more he will use what he knows against you to get you to back off. You may be angered about the way a person is or isn’t handling a matter, you might expose this person and when you do, you must be prepared for the backlash. Put yourself in your fault-finding foe’s shoes for a moment, “I don’t like this Christ believer. I am tired of this person talking to me. I don’t want to do what he tells me to do. If he says just one more thing to me, I am going to tell him a thing or two!” No one who is at fault who finds fault wants to be told about their faults. Make sense?

Now sometimes believers can actually use others’ faults to appear like they have a close relationship with the Lord. “She is a terrible person! She doesn’t keep her house clean. That’s why I pray for her, because I know if it wasn’t for God I would be like her.” Some believers might even boldly brag about what they do and don’t do in an attempt to get you to stop what you are doing for the kingdom of God. “If I were you,” the braggart, fault-finding believer says, “I wouldn’t help her or even talk to her. But if you do, I wouldn’t mention anything about God.”

When you are beginning to open up to someone who you may or may not know is a fault-finder, this person has a way of criticizing you through his or her questions; yet, appearing like he or she cares about you. “Aren’t you still angry at your parents—you know you have a temper? Think about that before you teach children. Did you ever get over your addictions, I mean you seem like you are okay, but the other day you seemed out of it maybe all those years of drug use tend to make you act strange? You might not want to talk to folks about your past. Is God really using you to help with the ministry, I mean you don’t read that well? I recall you are divorced, right, so why would God use you to give couple’s relationship tips?” Notice this fault-finding Christian is listing what’s wrong with his or her fellow brother and sister in Christ to illustrate a point like the following. “I don’t want any competition and you aren’t good enough to walk with God much less be a part of our ministry.” For some believers, they would buckle under the criticism and vow never to attempt to join a ministry ever again.

The fault-finder is described in Jude 1:16 (NIV), “These men are grumblers and fault-finders; they follow their own evil desires; they boast about themselves and flatter others for their own advantage.” Evil workers will criticize you in the same breath while complimenting you. If they hope to receive something from you, they will tone down their criticism. Now if they can’t find any obvious faults with you, they will make things up. Take for instance the following Scripture, “In their greed these teachers will exploit you with stories they have made up. Their condemnation has long been hanging over them, and their destruction has not been sleeping,” 2 Peter 2:3 (NIV).

There are those individuals who defend every thing they do even when they are in the wrong. They exhaust themselves and those around them with all their excuse-making. Notice Jesus didn’t orchestrate a public relations campaign for himself. He could have hurt everyone in his path who criticized his actions, but he didn’t. He used his gifts for good. As believers, this is what we must do, use our gifts for good. God will avenge our enemies.

Fault-finders are deceptive. Jesus had many critical people following himself and others. One Pharisee named Simon was determined to find fault with Jesus after hearing him speak that he invited him to dinner. While having dinner, a sinful woman showed up and kissed Jesus’ feet and poured costly perfume on them. Simon immediately jumped to conclusions about Jesus because he had permitted the ungodly woman to touch him. However, Jesus used a parable about forgiveness to make a point with Simon and then politely told the proud Pharisee about the way he treated him when he came into his home. Simon had not treated Jesus like an honored guest, yet the sinful woman had. The Messiah told the woman that her sins were forgiven and to go in peace.

In another example, when the four men tore up the roof and let the crippled man down to be healed by Jesus, witnesses criticized Jesus for forgiving that man’s sins. When I read these biblical passages, I couldn’t help but think that many of us, who God is using to fulfill his will, are being scrutinized by people that should know better. These fault-finders are our brothers and sisters in Christ. In James 4:11-17 we are instructed to “not speak evil of one another”, not to judge as if we are God, and not to boast.

Now confronting one who has committed an offense is different from judging and so many confuse the two. They holler, “Don’t judge…” when they are being reprimanded. Mistie Shaw, a personal development writer on Suite101.com, wrote, “Jesus was very careful to distinguish between the way he treated religious people and ordinary folk…” she cites the woman at the well situation as an example. She adds, “…when his (Jesus) beloved disciples did something contrary to Jesus’ teachings, he did not ignore it. Jesus responded, sometimes with a gentle chiding word, sometimes a stronger rebuke or reprimand, but his correction always matched the severity of the infraction.” She provides Luke 8:22-25 for further study.

Some Christians have and are still working on the dark side—performing evil works for others behind the scenes while using Jesus and the church as a front. As much as some would like to hurt those who have hurt them by pointing out their faults, they don’t, because they remember their past. One commentor, arguy1973, in a forum about confrontation on City-Data.com wrote, “The way I see it…when someone (Christian) is in the wrong…the Holy Spirit is gonna convict them…just like when I come under conviction…for doing/saying something I shouldn’t have said or done.” But what the commentor fails to realize, not every believer hears from the Holy Spirit or reads the Bible often, now what? Do we let him or her continue to cause conflict amongst the brethren? Of course, not. Another commentor, Tricky D, shared, “I only confront people when they ask for help. I try to help them with making a decision. I always apeak my mind but he is responsible for his own actions. If he does or does not take my words to heart it is not my responsibility.” Consider this, what if the brother or sister refuses to ask for help and proceeds to go on with a plan that you know is not beneficial to him or his family, then what? For some believers, they remain quiet and let the person hang themselves. Most likely, the one who could have spoken up will feel saddened if something bad happens to that person who he or she could have advised whether that person wanted the help or not.

We frequently have to remind ourselves that we are accountable to God. We must consult with wise counsel and trust in the Lord when we are tempted to hurt someone because of what they say to or about us.

Loved ones’ comments hurt the most. It may take a long time for you to get over some things they have been said because you keep going around the same people who refuse to stop insulting you! According to Ephesians 4:22-32, “You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” Some people are setting themselves up to sin simply because they keep listening to others tell them what they consider is the “right thing to do” but all the while they insult believers by talking about how much of a fool, stupid, crazy, or dumb they are since walking with God. How might a believer respond to this sort of negative commenting? Well Ephesians 4:29-32 warns us, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Satan would love for us to react to both the saved and unsaved evily. But we are told in the same passage of scripture, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Now some might feel that this is a weak way to respond to a loud-mouth, cursing fool; however, if you follow the precepts of the Bible you will not only present yourself as one who is a sincere believer in Christ, but you will also keep your own sanity in the process. Think of how many people overreacted to a confrontation and ended up in jail or worse murdered!

Most often what we as human beings believe is right when interacting with others, is really wrong and what we might believe is wrong is really right. For instance, a loved one might say, “Fasting is crazy! I know you do it, but I couldn’t give up any food. Besides, how is it going to help you, you love to eat? You know the last time you tried to do it, how long did that last?” Is this person being very encouraging? But some believers receiving such criticism would continue to converse and visit this unsupportive person even during a fast.

Distance yourselves from foolish people critical of the things of God. Don’t share what you do for God with others who are not interested nor obedient to the will of the Lord. Continue to focus on the things of God in spite of critical people. In 1 Samuel 17:28, David’s oldest brother Eliab had criticized him for discussing with nearby men what might happen if one should kill a Philistine who was an enemy of Israel. Despite his brother’s lack of respect (he hadn’t let him speak) and his discouraging words, David spoke to other men. The Bible says that what he had said to the men was overheard and reported to Saul and Saul met with David. The young boy said to the king, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him” (I Sam. 17:32, NIV). Sometimes God will put us in the right place at the right time so that we can assist others despite what our past looks like, how young or old we might be, and who might think we aren’t qualified to accomplish a task.

Ask the Lord to protect you and the fault finder from all harm and danger, because chances are if you stay around a person like this long enough, you might find yourself in trouble for physically harming this person. Ask the Lord for some patience and love for people like this.

Fault-finders are usually critical not only of believers, but others as well whether they are saved or not. It is unfortunate that one day someone, who isn’t as long-suffering as you might hurt that critical individual.


A foe will find fault with everyone else but themselves.


Have you ever noticed someone well-dressed, but then after awhile of studying them you notice something is out of place? You may mention your findings to this person then again you might not, because you don’t want the critic to start pointing out your short-comings. Difficult people tend to act irrationally when their flaws are pointed out, and if they are familiar with your life, they might bring up your past mistakes or talk about how you are presently living. It’s their way of getting off the hot seat and putting you on it.

No one likes to see their faults presented in front of them so in order to save face, critical individuals will take cover by putting you down.

For instance, a fault-finder might talk about the way you look. “What’s up with your hair? Why do you dress like that? I would never wear that!” Some will act rudely when commenting about one of your flaws because they refuse to accept your advice or rebuke. Although the comment has nothing to do with what you said, for some difficult people it just makes them feel better to talk down or about you, because “you had no business talking to me about what God told you!” In this example, let’s say the fault-finder was dressed inappropriately at a church event, he or she says, “You told me about my skirt being too short, but look at your out-dated clothing.”

“What’s wrong with what I look like? I’m not tempting anyone’s husband by dressing in long skirts and making sure my chest is covered.”

“Everything is wrong! You ought to update your wardrobe.”

“That’s not a very nice thing to say, considering my wardrobe is modern.”

“Well I’m just being honest.”

No. What the fault-finder is really doing is covering up his or her hurt feelings for being admonished for dressing badly. Now the fault-finder turned liar might be on a path toward God’s wrath. The Lord uses people to reprove, rebuke, and exhort brothers and sisters in Christ. This person doesn’t want to admit that she was wrong for dressing a certain way around married men. Therefore, she is going to find fault with someone who is trying to help her.


Solution:


Think about the disputes you have been in with people who seemed to agree with what you are saying at first, but then uncomfortable, negative emotions and thoughts begin to set in their hearts and minds. When this happens, you know what is going to occur next, he or she is going to start finding fault with you. “Well remember when you said…well that didn’t happen that way and I can recall a time when you did…” People who feel guilty, bad, angered, or uncomfortable about something they are doing will feel as if their back is up against the wall. As believers, the last thing we want to do is keep them there. Let the difficult person walk away or you dismiss yourself from his or her presence. You don’t have to provide detailed explanations about your life. If anything, you can remind him or her how you overcame and how the individual can do the same.

Listen to the fault-finder just to see if anything they are saying is valid. Then take what they say to the Lord in prayer and ask him to give you some wisdom when dealing with this person in the future.


A look back…


Some of us use to do this and others are still doing it, finding fault with everyone else but ourselves. You may recall times you wanted to believe everything that individuals in your life said, but you couldn’t overlook his or her past. What they use to do and who they are presently is no longer an issue for them but it may still be a problem for you.

People who are focused on what others’ weaknesses are tend to have low self-esteem, jealous, bitter, and angry. Some of these personality challenges we will examine from a spiritual perspective elsewhere in this book. Unlike God, flawed human beings don’t look beyond our faults.


Scripture Reference


Ecclesiastes 12:13-14

2 Corinthians 5:10

John 8:7

Philippians 2: 3-4


Prayer


Search my heart Lord and show me my faults. Give me the strength and courage to deal with my short-comings. Help the one who has criticized me. Show this person his/her faults and put away his/her prideful heart. If I have said some things that hurt this person, cause me to make wrongs right in Jesus name.

Double-Minded

A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
James 1:8
 
 
The double-minded is on your job, television, maybe even sitting right next to you, someone who can’t seem to make up his or her mind about anything! The Bible says, “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways” (Jam. 1:8). Yet, some of us consider a person like this a trusted relative or friend—that is until they show their disloyalty! By then we realize we have an enemy on our hands, one who doesn’t much care about our feelings or what he or she promised.

Your beloved may be in your corner today and gone the next. The double-minded are believers in God when it is convenient and unbelievers when believing in Christ is unpopular. They will believe when the walk is easy, but when the pressure is on, “I don’t know what to believe!” the double-minded will say.

Let’s say, something has come up in conversation with one who you know isn’t sold out about God or his teachings. The kind of statements that cause one some discomfort about his or her lifestyle, habits, and other things. You feel led to ask the following challenging question, while this person tries to dodge your every comment, “So are you really a believer? I mean you talk about church and how much you read the Bible, but I have seen the way you act with people and I have to question you on this?” Uh oh! What do you think the double-minded man or woman is going to do? Defend his or her actions of course, followed by a question and answer session where you are the topic of conversation, and a conclusion where he or she hopes you will go away. Now we can stand there with a dumb expression on our faces if we want to, but a warrior for God, one who he is chosen to meet the people where they are will not stand still. He will continue with his conversation until he exhausts himself being careful not to name-call, curse, or physically fight. However, the one who is listening to the rights and wrongs about his or her life, well there is no guarantee that he or she will react to this sort of debate in a dignified manner. One ought to pray and get out of an intense situation as soon as he or she feels the prompting of the Holy One otherwise you fail in getting this person to ponder on his or her double-minded ways.

In the Book of James 4:4-12 (New International Version), we notice that James confronts the double-minded with bold statements, here is some of the text, “You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.” Read the remaining text for yourself, because James reminds us that if we stand up against the devil he will flee and that if we come near to God he will come to us. The Scriptures in this section teach us how to handle the double-minded in such a way that causes he or she to think about things from a spiritual perspective and then compare what he or she has learned with one’s worldly deeds.

Double-minded people just don’t come into being, they are created. Some have been driven into this state of mind by hypocrites, liars, and cheats. If you are guilty of saying one thing and doing another, then don’t look at those around you as being the crazies, look at yourself and ask, “What have I done to make this person feel conflicted about what I am saying and doing when it comes to my faith?”

Sometimes we find ourselves compromising truth because we are not ready to give up certain perks and favor with others. “Well I said that because I didn’t want to upset my husband…I acted this way because I didn’t want them to kick me out the group…I chose to commit to this project even though I know God wouldn’t approve, but I need money.” So when new believers, backsliders or the unsaved witnesses our actions, he or she assumes that it is okay to be about God’s business on some days and take off on others for the sole intent to make someone else happy, achieve selfish gain, or manipulate others because someone told you to do it.

For some of you reading this book, your past decision-making, voided of God, have made your current lifestyle a roller-coaster that never seems to end—up one day, and down the next and around a loop. If you blame anyone, blame yourself.

Most people with mental illnesses are double-minded. Think of those in your family that seem to be okay with or without certain medicines. You may be able to tell the difference in the personalities when they haven’t taken their daily dose. Some people under doctor’s care need prescription medicines so that their minds remain relatively stable; otherwise, they are prone to do something that may hurt themselves or others if they don’t take meds. However, there are those prescriptions that cause more harm than good; therefore some patients might make faulty decisions while being under the influence which would make them appear like they don’t know what they like, want, or need. Consider the medicines, herbal remedies, and other substances you may be eating and drinking that might be affecting the way others view your actions. You made a rush decision last week after eating a very good meal with someone you admire, now this week you regret your decision. You felt good about a certain person because he or she treated you well at a lovely event, but now you don’t feel that excited about going out with them. What changed? The atmosphere, your mood, and a lack of trust in your Creator, because had you been focused on what he said over dinner or at the event, you would have never committed to anything no matter how nice looking the person or environment or how good the food was. But so many enter into a war with an enemy, because he was “nice, she looked beautiful, and the food was great.” Some unfortunately get what they deserve, because they acted without God in the plan while claiming to be one of his chosen. You have to wonder that if one is sincerely a believer in Christ, why would he or she subject his or her self to enemy schemes by appeasing one’s flesh in a room of potential foes? If there is anytime to watch what you eat, drink, do, and say is in a room full of people watching you, watching me. But the foe gets you fat and happy, then takes advantage of you immorally between cursing, moaning, crying, and laughing—notice typical emotions that help lure you into the trap that your foe has set for you while the double-minded witness claims, “I didn’t see that one coming…honestly I thought you knew…I am so sorry.” Meanwhile, a double-minded foe who has been paid by your enemy, like Judas, set you up.

I have heard many believers have more trust in man-made substances then what God has to say. Many of these drugs show up in places where one feels most comfortable. What’s worse, some so-called friends will trick you into drinking or eating something for the sole purpose of taking advantage of you.

Then there are those individuals who are sincerely concerned about your health and sometimes the Lord is the one that moved on them to encourage you to see a doctor. Through situations dealing with our health, we can be a bit double-minded and claim to believe that God will heal us; yet, not do what he has asked as if we have less face because we choose to get treatment. If God sent a messenger to you, evidently you must not be listening to him, so what better time to put your faith to work—start praying! There are those who don’t want to face reality and don’t want to believe that God has healed them either, so they will continue to run to doctors and their medicines long after God has used his messengers to say, “Enough!” They fall in love with the high. They enjoy the feel-good trip which also activates a warped sense of reasoning, disturbs one’s faith, and in time affects one’s personal and public relationships. We see evidence of this sort of behavior with entertainers and you may have personallyt witnessed illogical behavior amongst those you love high on drugs.

Some double-minded believers with double-minded lifestyles will justify substance abuse or illegal drugs as being okay with God, because “he understands and he created them.” I can’t help but think that those who feel this way are running churches, teaching others, and managing things like the public’s wealth all while under the influence. It isn’t any wonder that some lose their minds and die prematurely.

Despite how much we choose to look the other way when someone is visibly in trouble, a confused, tormented mind can wreck havoc on the homefront, church body, in business and elsewhere. If the double-minded believer seems to stumble often when it comes to walking with God, challenged when it comes to accepting the word of God, and overall just seems to have frequent personal problems—no matter how much one prays or gets others to pray, you have to ask yourself, “Should I be involving myself with this person or ministry?” In Romans 16:17, Paul warns, “Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.” Arguing, back-biting, lying, and causing any number of negative events as a result of saying one thing regarding God’s word, but doing another will be exposed whether in speech over the phone or publically. Everyone will know who is sincerely walking with the Lord and remaining faithful simply by how he or she deals with a spiritual issue. A man on the street curses and acts like a fool displaying irresponsible behavior while saying, “God bless you! I will pray for you! God will fight my battles!” is no better than a bonafide Satan worshiping, money-loving fool who loves to argue with anyone in his path, because with both individuals, they glorify self, lifestyle and how he or she treats others over what the one true God says about loving one’s enemy. When you believe in God, yet do what you want to do, you display double-mindness and unfortunately you have to keep going back to the Lord confessing and repenting for the same sins over and over again until you are humbled enough to pick a side—your creator or self?

Sometimes those in leadership refuse to accept that a beloved church member, relative or friend is mentally unstable. They reason that a wayward believer’s mental condition is due to a personal issue; therefore they might expect believers to treat the situation lightheartedly. Leaders may instruct the church body to assist the double-minded brother or sister in Christ while using Scripture like, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, “Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.” This is a great passage of Scripture in its proper place, but telling a congregation to build one another up when someone is doing and saying things that are unstable is not a wise thing to do.

We are to confront our brothers and sisters in Christ when they are in the wrong, not pretend as if they are okay when it is obvious that they are not. “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over” (Matt. 18:15).

When dealing with family conflict, in the New Living Translation Bible it says, “Do not nurse hatred in your heart for any of your relatives. Confront people directly so you will not be held guilty for their sin.” Family will attempt to get you to go along with their foolishness, so as to appear like they are justified in their sins. Rather than do the following like: argue, point out everything that is wrong with them, encourage them in their sins, and do other similar behaviors—that look like you are better than they are—listen, but then quietly pray in your spare time for them that they will see the error of their ways. We must avoid the temptation to want to put aside our beliefs and act in ways that make us appear like we are double-minded when it comes to worldly behaviors—what’s right is right, but what’s wrong is wrong.

Some leaders will even go so far as to cover-up the repeated wrong-doing of afflicted believers or unbelievers, giving these people a pass on their misdeeds. One way they do this is by gloating over members or periodic church-goers’ history of niceties especially if these people were generous and committed givers. Sometimes Christian leaders will look the other way when they know they are struggling with double-mindness too. Not every pastor, evangelist, apostle, prophet, or teacher believes everything that the Lord says and worse, some have more fear for Satan than they do God.

When you know you have a person in your circle who is unstable you will not want to entrust important tasks to him or her. If this person has already shown some instability in the way he or she communicates and does other things, you will need to deal with such a person in a manner that teaches witnesses that no matter what the mental condition, the church cannot accept any behaviors and teachings that go against the word of God whether given prophetically, naturally, or in the Bible. For instance, a wishy-washy person may take one political side or another depending on who is padding his or her pockets. He or she may be a fan of one sports team amongst family and friends. But when standing in front of a different audience, he or she may support another team. People, who fight against one side or another, act in these ways because they stand to gain something. When you see the writing on the wall, methodically break ties from such a person in your group setting. If you don’t, he or she will eventually fall weak to an enemy’s offers and become a traitor or what some might call “a snitch” or “double agent” as discussed later in this book. To strategically break from someone, not just a double-minded person, may include any number of ways such as: lessening contact with him or her to the point that the person is no longer relevant in your life, cutting his or her workload gradually, keeping him or her out of certain meetings in the hope that he or she will eventually disconnect from the group, and ignoring his or her ideas, requests, and complaints. On the surface, this sort of behavior doesn’t look like the Christian thing to do, but I assure you that God has a way of creating distance between the mentally weak and the strong that looks just like the tips I described. Consider some of the biblical stories where an enemy was marked, dismissed from a group, city, etc., fought in a war, and eventually destroyed as a result of being disobedient, lying, scheming, and more when interacting with the people of God.

The double-minded man or woman is whatever you want him or her to be on any given day just so long as there is some benefit to his or her acting double-minded. If there is nothing to gain, the person will typically stand his or her ground. “I will not vote Democrat! I refuse to listen to that music! I don’t participate in pagan celebrations!” a minister says, but then when he is amongst his brotherhood, “I love those democratic views. I enjoy listening to heavy metal music. Whenever I get a Thanksgiving or Christmas invite, I am there!”

A double-minded individual may be in a relationship that is riddled with problems. This person may not be able to make up his or her mind about staying committed or breaking up. For example, he says, “Today, I love her, but tomorrow, I don’t know. She got upset with me the other day and I don’t like the way she talks to me.” But only last week, he proposed to her and told the world how committed he was to her—go figure?

Relationships aren’t like water faucets you can’t just turn them on and off. Yet, from the double-minded man or woman’s point of view, he or she sees nothing wrong with fluctuating thoughts of make up and break up, because that’s what other couples do. Worldly behaviors simply don’t apply to God’s children.

These unstable minded people usually don’t have any longevity in much of anything. They don’t keep friends, jobs, relationships, money, hobbies, homes, or much else for long. Their minds are always thinking about the next best thing. Yesterday’s idea is old, today’s idea is new and tomorrow’s idea will replace them all. It’s usually the people around them that attempt to help the double-minded stay grounded. Without a network of support to keep up the front of someone who has much influence nationally and internationally, the one who is secretly double-minded is most often exposed. A double-mind tends to produce multiple personalities from what I have noticed with many. There seems to be a pattern with those who have this condition where they can turn into someone else before they finish telling a story or performing on stage. Outsiders, looking in, tend to think such a person as “insane, a little off, out there,” or “irresponsible.” Whose faces come to mind in the secular entertainment industry while writing this include singers and songwriters like: Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Beyonce (Sasha Fierce), Nicki Minaj (Roman), Britanny Spears, Madonna, the late Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston just to name a few.

In Psalm 119:113, the Psalmist David says, “…I hate vain thoughts: but thy law do I love.” Vain thoughts are inconsistent. They flatter, exaggerate, cause debate, and overall destroy meaningful relationships. However, the law is consistent. It doesn’t change like the wind. The purpose of the law is to build people up, not tear them down.

A man who is certain about getting married is not going to tell his friend, “I don’t think I want to get married.” A woman who is certain about relocation is not going to tell her co-workers, “I don’t think I want to do it.” The double-minded often think of how others impact his or her life which keeps him or her on a sea-saw ride of emotions. They will get others to side with his or her way of doing things, that is, until one’s mind changes again. Thank God for his wisdom! Without it, all people would be making changes daily to suit them.

The double-minded man or woman is also known as a “two-faced person” in some circles. This means that he or she appears one way in front of one set of people and a different way around the other set. One would also call such a person, “fake” or “phony.” Both double-minded or “two-faced” people are one in the same. For instance, let’s say you have a friend who enjoys rock music; however when she is around certain friends, who are R&B listeners, she acts as if she doesn’t. When you point out her interest in front of others, she acts offended. “You are confused,” she says, “I never said I like rock music.” It’s obvious she’s acting in front of your circle of friends, so to avoid an argument, you just play along. But then when you get her alone, you might say, “I know you like rock music. You don’t have to pretend like you don’t, because my friends are black.” The friend replies, “Yeah. Well I didn’t want to be judged.”

People like this usually act this way out of fear of criticism, to protect his or herself from backlash, to fit in, and other reasons. They might act as if they are okay one day, but then look for an opportunity to pay someone back for finding out the real truth about them. According to James 4:8, “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.” God instructs those who are double minded to purify their hearts. The only way they can do that is if they consistently walk with God and open up their minds and hearts to him; rather than focus on pleasing self and others.

You may recall a few folks like this in your own family. They spend hours thinking of ways to look good in front of certain people—even if it goes against their better judgment. They may be so-called believers of God, but can’t tell you the last time they read the Bible and actually practiced anything they read. Yet they will exclaim, “God is so good! God is wonderful!” as long as their skies are blue and the sun is shining in their worlds. But the minute, the storm clouds come and the rain comes pouring down, they don’t have too much, if anything, to say about God. Besides, when you observe their actions, you have to wonder if they are still Christians during times of crisis. Cussing like a sailor, yelling at everyone in their path, and ready to fight about any and everything, the double-minded person is now walking on the side of the enemy. Somehow through trials and circumstances, this once stable-minded person has lost his or her mind. Maybe even a few people have said to him or her, “Have you lost your mind? Who are you? I don’t know this person anymore.”

We have all been guilty of this kind of behavior at times, but just because we have all had some “I can’t make up my mind” moments in our lives, doesn’t mean its okay to keep acting indecisively especially on major life decisions. Pray, fast, talk with wise counsel, check the Bible for answers, but avoid the temptation to follow after the devil’s “too good to be true” scenarios. When we find ourselves repeatedly saying and doing things that don’t build others up, we have to ask ourselves, “Am I really a child of God or am I just pretending so that I can get some kind of favor from someone or a group?” When you are real with self and God he will answer your prayers.

God seeks out people who are consistent in both their beliefs and actions. Take for instance 1 Kings 18:21, “Elijah went before the people and said, ‘How long will you waver between two opinions? If the Lord is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him.’ But the people said nothing.”

From the boardroom to the church, the Lord wants people who are stable in all their ways! He isn’t interested in lukewarm Christians working in a lukewarm church. According to Revelation 3:16, “So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.”

So when we play the game of flipping and flopping with the truth, saying one thing and doing another, we are seen as unreliable, inconsistent, or as mentioned earlier, crazy! “You don’t know if she is coming or going…” says one person. “I thought I knew him, but it is clear after he said what he did, I don’t.” says another.

Double-minded people don’t make good friends. They forgive on one day and unforgive on another. Angry then happy, okay, or so-so depending on how the wind blows, the indecisive goes with whatever program is set before he or she. They are often too weak in their commitments to people, job, faith, and other things to be of any real help to anyone; therefore they always need someone around to make up their minds for them. We must be mindful of the double-minded, and how we react to them because it is very easy to be come frustrated and rude with them. Do as Ephesians 4:29 suggests, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”

There will be those times in life that we will simply change our minds and there is nothing wrong with that particularly if it means keeping one from living unrighteously. We may not want to do something, because we discover that the people or actions are inconsistent with our belief system or because God intervened on our behalf. It’s okay to change your mind about sinning, but what isn’t okay, is to initially do what’s right only to cave into the pressure of doing wrong then finding excuses to cover sin. You also don’t want to allow wrong-doing to happen right in front of you. Then don’t bother to address the issue with the person or one nearby who could help mediate the situation. If the pastor doesn’t want to handle an ungodly situation, the boss refuses to listen, and a parent pretends like a problem is just going to fix itself, maybe you might get his or her attention if you turn up the heat, so to speak. There are human resources offices, board members, favorite relatives, local police, and friends in high places that can be used to open up blind eyes and double-minds.

We see a good example of people acting double-minded during seasons when one is running for a government office such as, when a politician is on the campaign trail for president. He or she initially says all the right things, but then once a few people whisper in the politician’s ears (after he becomes president of course) about why some idea isn’t going to work, the leader will then falters in his or her beliefs. Before long, the president begins to talk and act in ways that one may question, “Is this the same man or woman who once desired to lead our country?”

God allows his Holy Spirit to convict us when we are acting inconsistently in our words and actions. That uncomfortable feeling in one’s spirit should make him or her want to immediately make wrongs, right. If your inconsistent behavior doesn’t bother you, then you should take the time and ask the Lord, “Why?” Ask him to heal you from your hardened heart and show you how you can be more consistent in the things you say and do so as to keep the peace in your household, on the job, and elsewhere.


Unbelieving critics are inconsistent in their beliefs and actions.

Think about a time when an inconsistent Bible-believing church-goer had said something that just didn’t sit right in your spirit about going to church. The critic may have claimed to have a word from the Lord just so that he or she could talk about you or someone you know who often goes to church. This person may have disguised his or her personal opinion up in prophecy. However, you know better.

God has given us the wisdom of his word and common sense to discern right from wrong. You may have heard an unbeliever or backslider say something like, “That’s why I don’t go to church, because those folks are all hypocrites.” But what they fail to realize is that they too are hypocrites, saying they believe in the Lord and pray; yet, very little in their lives reflect that they even trust in the Lord, much less talk and listen to him on a regular basis.

We must be mindful of those inconsistencies we display around both the believing and unbelieving, but we shouldn’t allow what others say or do to keep us from praying, attending church, participate in Bible study, socialize with other like-minded believers or read God’s words. We should also guard our hearts by not “doing as the Romans do” particularly when God isn’t in the plan.

Have you ever noticed a sister or brother in Christ, or an elder or deacon act inconsistent when sharing their beliefs with others? He or she may bow his or her head in prayer at the dinner table and then minutes later, act as ungodly as the next person. A worship leader may speak in tongues, give words of knowledge and have other phenomenal gifts, but only use them when he or she can be seen by the church congregation. Sometimes people behave in ways for show in order to win friends and receive money.

Question Mr. & Mrs. Inconsistent (both in and out of the church) on the things they do. Listen to them as they explain why they do what they do without attacking them. Hopefully, they will think about what they just told you then later think how ridiculous they sound when giving their explanations. If they don’t self-reflect, most likely, they will turn the table back on you and ask you, “Well why do you do what you do?” Be brief when you answer, “I do this because…or I don’t do that because…” and avoid debating. Bring the conversation back to your original question and then keep silent. The silence creates a moment for thinking and keeps you from saying something that might backfire on you. When in conflict, remember Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Mr. & Mrs. Inconsistent would love for you to take on a defensive stance or argue with you, so that he or she can be in a position to rebuke you about your yelling, talking down to them, being disrespectful, or failing to act Christian like. Don’t fall for it!

Remember, double-minded men and women will be offended by your questioning their actions or exposing their errors. These people may become your worst enemies without ever showing their upset.


Solution:


Be cautious and watch for signs when people are acting different toward you since bringing up their inconsistent way of doing or saying things. It is only a matter of time that they will be working on the side of the enemy in an attempt to destroy any efforts you make in living righteously and consistently.  Always have a back up plan if you suspect the wishy-washy type might retaliate against you one day.


A look back…


Do you recall when you or someone you know became a believer? You were probably told to do some things publicly that were considered “doing the right thing” and you did them grudgingly or without any thought. At times, you may have been inconsistent in your actions which made people wonder whether or not you were sincerely a believer or just a pretender.

We must remember that the sinner or backslidden Christian is acting in ways that are familiar to him or her. This person or group may not stop doing something without objection or excuse.


Scripture Reference

Colossians 2:8

Galatians 1:14-17

Peter 1:18

Matthew 15:2-9
 
Prayer

Teach my brother (sister) in Christ your ways. Remind them that walking with you is not for show. Point out inconsistent things I say and do as it relates to my walk with you. Help me to be more consistent in what I say and do in Jesus name.

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