Pray More, Argue Less

He's going to come talking about how he doesn't like this or that about you.  She is going to come to you with this issue and that one and she isn't going to be nice about explaining what is on her mind either. 

Your foe has an agenda and it goes something like this, "I didn't like the way she did that...I wish he hadn't said that...therefore I am going to tell this person how I feel." 

Foes come with emotional baggage.  Whether you are the one at fault or not, the point is the foe is ready for the fight, but not the battle.  You see, when one is fighting he or she is looking for the knock-out and hoping that will be it--you will go away, but when one is battling, everything is at war both in the natural and the spiritual and you and your Heavenly Father ain't going nowhere! 

So what are you going to do?  Well you could avoid the fight by not being available.  You could pray that your foe go away and you never see him or her again.  You could even pack up and declare yourself dead.  But seriously, what would any of these so-called easy-way-outs solve?  What lesson do you learn in fighting when you can let God into your mess and he can start and end the battle supernaturally even before you see the truce in the natural?  I prefer the latter option, because sometimes running just doesn't put things to rest like facing one's foe.  Running from the phone, the event, the person, the place, the thing, and so on doesn't do any good when the phone keeps ringing, the event is still going on, the person is still around, the place or thing still exists--now what? 

How about you prayerfully answer the cell phone, respond to the text, show up at the event, stop by unannounced for a visit carrying your foe's belongings, or being at the right place at the right time with the good news--that's right good news that you are free in Christ!  "I am free," you exclaim.  "I no longer feel the need to avoid you, cover up my feelings, and so on.  I want to put XYZ to rest; therefore, here is my solution," you say. 

Your foe isn't going to like the fact that you are controlling the confrontation--that you are getting your way.  So this person is going to act difficult, create a few lies, basically get you upset.  Devilish people bound by Satan don't like saintly people free in Christ. 

Your foe is going to look for the blow-up argument (you know the one where people curse, yell, police are called, and hearts and things get broken?) At some point, your hater/enemy/jealous relative/crazy co-worker is going to expect you to lose control; therefore giving he or she good reason to bring in their plan to annihilate you.  So the wicked one picks on you, he name-calls, yell, accuses you of things you didn't do, brings up the past, but surprisingly you aren't moved by anything the evil spirit within or around this person says or does.  The threats mean nothing.  The mental game-playing (ie. guilt trips) with relatives and friends don't hold any power anymore.  You aren't staying up all night crying or complaining about your foe issues.  You could care less about the He say/She say.  You have arrived, my friend!  You have reached the destination in your mind called, Peace.

Try as hard as you can with the help of the Holy Spirit to stand against your enemy wearing the full armor of God today, tonight and tomorrow!

Be grateful you have a Savior.  Pray more, argue less!


Nicholl McGuire

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God Will Permit the Debate, Screaming Match Use it for His Glory

As much as we try to avoid a confrontation, argument or some other unpleasant event to occur with someone who we genuinely care about, sometimes it is unavoidable.  Someone is going to say something that causes much upset, so what do you do when this happens?  Focus on the positive.

God could have stopped the angry dispute, but he didn't.  Sometimes he permits negative events to happen so that his perfect will is made manifest.  Know that what you pray for is a part of God's will.  If you wanted peace, the enemy is going to cause chaos.  If you wanted freedom, the enemy is going to try to find a way to mentally bind you.  If you wanted love, the enemy will rise up and create hate.  Whatever is honest, true, righteous and the like, your foe has an opposite ready to kill, steal or destroy your happiness.

Now sometimes we simply do the wrong things in life and then we think that the devil has something to do with making us miserable.  I think of a time when I spoke to someone about a concern and before long the individual was falsely assuming that I was doing nothing more than causing trouble; therefore deeming me a trouble-maker or working on the side of the enemy.  Rather than face his issue, address the complaints, and put to rest his accusations, he preferred to keep an imaginary war going by speaking wrongly of me.  This sort of distraction technique only added fuel to the fire between us and ignited my temple like a can of explosives!  But when the smoke cleared and I made some time for myself, I realized that everything I ever wanted to say was out in the open and I felt better.  I also could see the light at the end of the tunnel too!  Answer to prayer is powerful and it isn't always going to come in the way that you think.  God is going to put trials before us to see what we are made of.  Can you stand the heat in the kitchen?  Is there an escape plan, a fire extinguisher in all that madness?  Someone or something just might come in and put those fires out--you never know--especially if they were never meant to be in the first place.

So when people pity you or talk about you because you blew your top defending yourself or someone else, don't worry over what they think; rather sit back and let God use the challenging situation to perform his perfect will.

Nicholl McGuire

Your Friend Thinks You Don't Know He/She is Still Your Foe

Always stay one step ahead of those you suspect don't like, respect, or appreciate you.  Sure, she smiles in your face and he says flattering things to others about you, but once a foe, most likely always a foe especially when you have a history of cursing and fighting your enemies whether verbally or nonverbally and this person feels he or she has no accountability to the Creator.

Don't be surprised when someone warns, "I wouldn't trust him if I were you."  But for some of you, you respond to cautionary statements with, "Oh, I don't worry about that...I don't think he is like that...Well we squashed that a long time ago."  Really?  Maybe you thought you did, but your foe still has some unresolved issues particularly when others notice that something just isn't right with that person.  Your foe might periodically see scenes in his or her head of you saying or doing something that simply is unforgiveable in his or her eyes.  Tread cautiously around people like this and don't shoot your messengers down when they keep you updated.  Pray about the information you have received and ask God to reveal truth to you and reasons as to why you are being notified now about this person.

Enemies may put on a great act in front of others and they might wishfully think that you don't suspect that they still don't like you.  They wouldn't want to blow their own cover when they know they are scheming to rid themselves of you.  So out comes, "I don't have a problem with her." When confronted.  "I don't know what you are talking about, I never said..." 

It doesn't matter how many times you reasoned the battle was over, apologized to your enemy, bought him or her gifts, or how much you praised this person, they still "Remember when you..."

If you should suspect that your enemy is still harboring resentment and wishing you ill will, know that you have a God who will fight your battles if you give your concerns over to him.  He speaks to men and women while they sleep and provides them with insight to deal with foes.  There is a battle that those, who lack spritiual discernment, cannot see or feel and this is why many end up being blind-sided by Satan's assistants.

Consider all that God did for David, who was running from a so-called friend who wanted to kill him, and others in the Bible.  Keep in mind, there is a God who watches your back even when you can't see or refuse to admit that there is a knife coming toward it!

God bless.

Nicholl McGuire

After the Storm: Here Comes the Blessing

The enemy sets us up for much pain and sorrow.  He wants us to suffer.  This is why the unexpected argument has the tendency to be more effective than any other tactic he uses.  He knows that when we are in a good mood, we don't see him coming.  Our defenses are weak--that is until we get caught up to speed!  But why does he bother influencing those we love to suddenly attack us?  Because he knows that there are blessings around the corner for us, that's why.

Think of all the times you have had to deal with confrontation and then soon afterward something good happened to you and those you love.  You couldn't believe that only yesterday, last week or last month, you felt like you were going to die with all the stress.  Yet, a great and mighty God still blesses you!  Give thanks today for all your heavenly Creator is doing or about to do in your life.

Refer to 2 Samuel 16:5-13  David didn't see his cursing coming.  He could have hurt the one offending him.  Read what he did or should I say didn't do.  Also, see video below.

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