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Foe

Something wasn't right,
I felt a fight.
She was in my sight.
I prayed, not tonight.
A smiling demon in heels.
Always making deals.

She didn't love anyone--
made people run.
Whatever she wanted, she got.
Used shame, to win fame.

No one wanted to be called out,
no one wanted to hear her shout.
They were protective of their clout.

But I wasn't afraid, and could care less
about her mess--was familiar with this test.
In God's presence, she started to confess...
had issues, that required tissues.

Little did she know,
she had made God her foe.
He was tired of her talk,
he was ready to make her walk.

I prayed for things to change,
I prayed her life would rearrange.

One day it was time for me to go,
the seed was left, it had to grow.

Nicholl McGuire

 

No Belief in God Talking to His Messengers

Have you ever tried talking to someone about something you knew for sure was the truth?  You gave them detail after detail and fact after fact in an effort to help them with an issue, yet they still didn't want to believe you?  Well, this sort of response is what many of God's messengers face when sharing his truth with believers as well as unbelievers.  We aren't just talking about the Gospel of Christ, but wisdom that speaks truth into one's personal situation/dilemma.

Prophets ought to be strong when giving a person a word of knowledge, prophecy or any other message that God moves on our spirits to give.  Further, we should fear the God we pray to when we don't do for Him!  So many former messengers and followers end up in troubled waters, because they proceed in life thinking God is directing them, despite being wayward in the faith.

Think of the many Christians who end up on planes, trains, buses, cars and even in bars, because they permitted flesh to direct them, while ignoring the prophet's warning, only to prematurely die via an accident, stray bullet, illness, or something else.  We all are going  to die some day, but at least when the time comes, it will because God ordered it and not because of our disobedience that led us to it.

We must trust the words that God gives (even if it hurts) and do accordingly.  But how might we know whether a messenger of God is real?  Consider what you prayed behind closed doors.  Was there any way one would have known what to tell you at the right place and at the right time without God's influence?  Of course, our adversary will have his many tricks, but what do his words provide?  A trip toward a path that leads straight to hell!  We see evidence of this by the many elitists whose minds have gone crazy as a result of shunning what the Almighty God says while welcoming what Satan sings.

Nicholl McGuire

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The One You Love the Most Might Be Your Biggest Foe

When I think of all the people over the years that were once close to me, I also remember times during our friendship when they appeared to be my worst enemies.  From sharing personal details about my life with a common foe to making false promises.  You can become bitter, paranoid, and mean-spirited when you have been repeatedly mistreated.

Sometimes we fall in love too quickly, think too highly of others, defend liars, and shun those who mean us well.  With so much drama surrounding us, it can be hard to see who is friend and who is foe.  This is why we must spend the necessary time praying to God.  Asking him, "What do you think of those who I have partnered with personally and professionally?  Show me who is friend and who is foe."  You will be surprised to see some of the most unlikeliest people pass before your spiritual eyes.

Pray hard when you see the truth.  Ask the Lord to cover your heart and mind concerning the person who has been deceiving you for so long.  Request that God use his angels to protect you from all harm and danger.  Trust God for a plan for your life.  When we discover that some individuals are all show, but no go, this isn't the time to curse people, gossip, or be vengeful; rather, we seek God for a plan.  For some readers, this would be a good time to fast from a favorite pleasure and start seeking God for some answers.  When your focus is on God, you pose a challenge for the enemy that he/she can't win by using things like:  flattery, gifts, demands, threats, or anything else he/she so chooses to come up with to keep you from knowing his/her plans of destruction for your life.

It can be difficult living with someone who may have been acting more like an enemy than a friend.  Try to see the positive in the current arrangement while asking God what are the benefits for now in carrying on a friendship/marriage/partnership, etc.  You might be surprised what God reveals. 

Remember, whatever situation you are in, it is only temporary, particularly if it is comprised of sinful behavior and only worsening with each passing day.  The instruction to love an enemy is what some readers are doing.  The love they have for their enemy isn't the problem, but what the enemy does to get a believer off track with the Lord is. 

While you wait for your deliverance from a foe, do this Proverbs 3:5.

Nicholl McGuire

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Face Your Foe Blog Owner Shares Experience Dealing with Foes

For years, I had to deal with a classmate who was bi-polar while attending high school.  I became a target when I spoke negatively about her one day while participating in a summer program not realizing she was mentally ill.  I personally didn't like her much and found her a bit odd after getting to know her.  I preferred to keep my distance.  I confided my honest feelings to someone who I didn't know at the time was a big mouth.  When the information reached the girl's ears, she considered me an enemy.

Now most girls would just go on about their business when they know someone doesn't like them, but not that girl!  She became relentless in attacking me with every name she could muster behind my back.  She was a part of many organizations I had joined.  She also found her way to my locker on multiple occasions when I wasn't around to put things on it including Vaseline on the dial of the combination.   My honest opinion of her spoken confidentially ended up creating World War III which included meetings with teachers, parents, and a couple of close calls where I wanted to beat her up badly, but the threat of suspension and punishment from parents loomed.

Every now and again I have dreams of this girl and she is peaceful, not causing me any issues in these dreams--we are actually friends.  Prior to graduating, she did apologize for all her misdeeds and I offered up an apology for what I said years before and included that I was unaware of her mental condition at the time I talked about her.  She was "cool" with me and gave me a hug.

Even though this is an all-too common story of high school girls disliking one another for one reason or another, the same behavior shows up in adults.  From the boss who doesn't like feedback from employees so he punishes them subtly to the spouse who becomes visibly irritated with her partner so she looks to find ways to pay him back for how he has made her feel.  Sometimes these "issues" last for years.  The tension is ongoing.  Sometimes it can be so bad that people have constant stomach and head aches as a result--I use to experience such stress even on the elementary school level.

Controlling individuals have followed me during my life, the type who think that they are always right, you are wrong, and if you object their will be consequences to pay.  After so many years of dealing with the same personality types, you start to become desensitize to them.  You stop caring, arguing, and you find yourself ignoring them the majority of the time.  What little they say or much, goes in one ear and out the other.  You tell yourself, "There is no sense in saying anything, not even nodding my head, because I don't care..."

There are times where we can't say or do anything with certain people.  Scripture quoting does nothing but infuriate some.  Spending lots of prayer time concerning certain people begins to take your attention away from more important things you need to praying about and listening to the Lord.  Spending money on these people in the hopes that they will treat you different will only keep you broke.  Pretending to like or love them when you know you don't, makes you look weak and hypocritical.  It is best to tolerate them when you can and when the opportunity comes to be free of your enemy, don't keep them around!  When my enemies, including the girl who gave me a hug, made their peace with me, I didn't try to befriend them.  Why would I be fool enough to set myself up for future drama?  I wished them well and moved on with my life.

Some readers are often having problems with the same people, because deep inside you love drama.  There is something about that person's negativity that you feed off of.  The more they mistreat you, the worse you get and in some twisted way, you like playing the tough guy or gal role with them.  Can I tell you, from personal experience, you will only find yourself one day on the wrong side with God!  It is best to free yourself from the troubled individuals.  Sure, helping people makes you look good in the sight of certain individuals and businesses, but when no one is watching, what do you really look like?

I thank you all for showing your support by reading this blog.  Feel free to subscribe and comment on the blog entries.  May God richly bless you with peace, love, and the courage to let your enemy go when the time comes!

Nicholl McGuire

Mind Control, Manipulating One's Thoughts to Get Desired Results

Your foe plays dirty.  He could care less about your God.  His objective is to get you to do what he wants.  When his charm doesn't work, he reaches in his bag of tricks and out comes a few tactics he observed over the years that other manipulators used, his intent is to control your mind.  If he can successfully do this, the rest of your body will follow.

From the color your controller/mentor/teacher/partner/boss/fraternal brother wears to how he speaks, your enemy is going to find ways to get your mind to say, "Yes" to the things of Satan when it really should say, "No."  Think of those around you who said, after being hurt or abused, "I can't believe I let him get away with that...What was I thinking?"  One's thoughts had been challenged over time in ways that they were not his or her's anymore.  The weak believer becomes a slave to sin! 

Distraction is one of many ways to get someone to stop objecting evil and start accepting it.  Think of the many believers who once hated a sinful lifestyle or refused to support an immoral establishment, yet in time, they go along with the status quo.  How does this happen?  With careful mind control.  Repetitiveness, name-calling, cover-ups, exaggerations, lies, false statistical data and imagery, whatever it takes to make you think that there is no right or wrong.

If you were to state an issue and expect others to go along without connecting it to real life experiences that the listeners can relate to, while impacting them emotionally, it wouldn't go over too well, now would it?  One who is use to getting his or her way, knows how to "act" to get people to agree.  From flattering statements like that of a seductress to a barrage of promises similar to the ones a politician gives, the mind controller will move gullible men and women to tears all the while getting them to say and do things that others would be astonished they would evn attempt to compromise long-standing personal beliefs.  But it happens everyday, accept this, accept that or else.

Many Christians end up backsliding because they permit someone or a group to come into their churches and then their lives with a false gospel.  Crafty individuals are like the serpent in the garden in the Book of Genesis who cause believers to doubt their Heavenly Father's instructions.  Eventually, a twisted mindset shows up in misdeeds.  Those who have been misled later wonder why they are in the hands of an angry God rather than a loving Father when life turns out to be miserable for them.  Consider years of compromise--even God grows weary of disobedient Christians.

Many believers are in churches and temples being deceived each Wednesday night, Saturday or Sunday morning by leaders who are under mind control.  These ministers have attended conferences full of all sorts of mind control tactics.  They read books and listen to audio that appeal to the five senses (the flesh); instead, of the spirit.  They ignore the Holy Ghost when he whispers, "What you are doing is not right...God is not pleased."  These idol worshipping, lovers of the fraternal brother and sisterhoods around our world are more concerned about numbers and money rather than what the one true God is saying (and his name isn't Lucifer).  Their twisted policies, procedures and philosophies are leading many straight to hell!

Mind control is real, reader!  Hypnosis is in the church, do your research!  Witchcraft is present everywhere.  Notice the symbolism in commercials, billboards, movies, and other media.  We have long been in the last days and we are getting closer and closer to a revealing of an Anti-Christ who is determined to destroy the people of God all while kissing babies and shaking hands.  Wayward believers make his job easier by turning away from a righteous God and choosing to serve the god of money, the god of this world, Satan.

Be wise believer in all your endeavors, God will not be mocked.

Nicholl McGuire

Your Adversary will Use You for Selfish Gain While Recruiting You for His Plan

The devil needs a soul so he will use the unwise, emotional Christian to have a pity party for his latest recruit.  "Poor woman...poor man...we ought to pray.  They need Jesus, let me help them."  So the Christian, lacking in spiritual discernment, extends a hand only to have it bitten off by that smiling face who appears like he or she is a child of God, but is really not.  That one, who has sold out for the devil over the years to gain much material wealth (while pretending to know God along the way).  He or she will come into one's house, attach his or herself emotionally, and then presto, when you least expect it, all hell breaks loose!

Sometimes God's people are so focused on the enemy, using his demons to move others away from God, that they don't see how they are being used by a devil of a man or woman for their own selfish pleasures.  From prayer to service, users and abusers will find a way to tolerate God's people for a time in an effort to get what they want.  Once obtained, the manipulator will either stick around for more blessings (they become greedy) or quietly drift away. 

Satan uses the needs of the lost and backslidden to blind them to God's word while they temporarily visit the church.  Once they have been uplifted, prayed for, and content with life, these people go back to the way it use to be--a life that puts God far back in their minds while they pleasure their five senses.  These are insincere Christians and should not be trusted!

God's wisdom and his people are only interesting for the lost and backslidders when, yet again, they cry out in the midst of their wilderness experience with, "Please pray for me...I need your help..."  It is then that the niave or backslidding Christian will permit a stranger, lover, husband, wife, ex, sister, brother, parent, co-worker--you name it, to burden them with request after request, "Could you...Would you...I need you..."  All the while, the enemy is seeking another potential recruit who becomes weary of helping others and tired of a God who watches from above.  The troubled individual will drain you mentally, spiritually and physically if you aren't seeking God for guidance.

Selfish people have need of God's people only when they believe there is some benefit from being around them.  However, if "blessings" don't come when they want and they lack the patience to wait on God, off they go looking for yet another group to potentially service their needs.  They are often unhappy, critical, and very angry individuals when things don't go their way as fast as they pray.  Oftentimes they lose family and friends during wilderness experiences, what little wealth they have remaining left, and other things due to things like their bad attitude, lack of appreciation when someone helps, lies, exaggerations, and abusive behaviors. These energy sappers fail to understand what exactly a personal relationship with Christ sincerely looks like.  Some don't know love, others do, but prefer to skip quality relationships and get right to the blessings.  They use and abuse then make excuses for their behaviors.  They fail to demonstrate compassion for others and are unwilling to change within.  God knows the heart, gullible believers don't and they will persuade others to blindly go along with whatever and whoever in and out of the church riddled with demons!  Many Christian men, women and children are so often deceived by a smiling face, a handshake, and a hug that they become susceptible to enemy schemes.  They are weak to beauty and easily impressed by one's material wealth; therefore, Satan deceives them everytime with his charm. 

Running to church is only part of the process, but while there, one is to obtain knowledge and exercise common sense while the Holy Ghost moves amongst the congregation.  Why would God allow an unsaved or backsliding man or woman to use or even abuse the Christian?  Because He knows that through whatever the circumstance, the believer will recognize he or she can do nothing apart from God!  God is to be praised not mocked!  We are never to take our eyes off of the one who saved us to save a man or woman--never!  It is not in our strength to save anyone--cast one's burdens on to God!  Allow him to give you the strength and wisdom to assist when called upon in His time and not our own.  We must involve the one true God in our plans at all times, on a daily basis.  So many Christians have died prematurely for stepping out of God's will, don't let this happen to you!

Does it hurt when we witness someone going through a trial, a wilderness experience?  Of course, but test the spirits, Christian.  Is he or she really a friend or foe of the church?  Sometimes people will experience the wrath of God, there is a time to do everything and sometimes we must stand out of the way--know your season.

Nicholl McGuire

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