Why Bother to Lie? Recognizing the Liar Within and Around You

One of the worst character flaws of some, who claim to love the Lord and be obedient to his will, is the liar!  This person will not hesitate to story-tell.  No remorse and no apology follows the cold-hearted liar.  He tells stories for no apparent reason.  However, when in a room with some of these liars who don't have to worry over their public reputation sometimes they will reveal that they lied to avoid public shame, discord, or future challenges.

A woman lies to protect her title because she has a long standing history with the church while she hopes to obtain something from those she thinks she has fooled with her false stories.  A man tells falsehoods because he believes he will stand out from the rest before a group he is trying to impress.  Most importantly, he uses his lies to cover up the truth about who he really is underneath his smile, flattery, and gift-giving.

The liar has secrets.  He or she manufacturers a story with the help of hell's angels whether these people choose to admit working for the devil or not.  They think only of self and worry over those who may be impacted by their lies later.

The unsaved and saved don't mind lying to the Christian especially if the person cares, likes or dislikes his or her victim.  If he or she believes in the lie and why he or she should tell it, even if one has been a Christian for years, the individual is going to tell it!

People will excuse the liar because of his or her past good deeds, how the person treats others overall positively, health issues, lack of material wealth, or whatever other reason to make one still maintain a relationship with a liar.  However, to be in the story-tellers presence is risky and most likely one will be impacted by his or her gossip.  Avoid spreading the liar's stories and do remember that witnesses might hold you accountable in the future--guilty by association.

Some common signs about liars, check yourself:

1.  Talking so fast due to emotion, one will speak too quickly and out comes a statement or comment that is incorrect about a person or an event.  Rather than make the statement right at that very moment, he or she will keep telling a story as if it is factual when it is not.

2.  When a situation occurs when one can speak up and tell the truth, the liar avoids saying anything to appear as if everything is okay when it is not.

3.  Liars will digress when communicating a story if they think one is catching on to their lie or advise the listener "not to say anything" knowing full well they have said something untruthful to someone or a group.

4.  Liars exaggerate, make up so-called facts, and blame others when they know they are at fault.

5.  Dishonest people will avoid settings where they might be exposed.  They don't like to look people in the eye, sit down across from them, or stand still and converse.  Many are often on the move, busy, or act as if everything else is more important than having a serious conversation with others.

Solution:

When one has to confront a liar, be sure to have proof.   It is frivolous do tell someone he or she is lying if you can't prove anything.  If the liar acts as if he or she is innocent, don't work yourself up by yelling, threatening physical violence or saying or doing other things that will just make the liar look as if he or she is better than you before observants.  Maintain self-control and deal with issues with a witness or two privately.  Consider recording conversations noting dates and times you spoke with him or her.  This way in the future the person can't say he or she never spoke to you about an incident. 

A look back...

Do you recall a time when you lied?  How did the person or group react to your lie?  As much as we would like to think that we are all perfect and never do wrong, God will show us the truth about ourselves!  Confess sin and repent for the sins you know about and the sins you don't this day.  It may have been what one might consider a little fib about money spent or a huge lie that might cost you your family or job.  Give your burden over to the Lord!  Make wrongs right whenever you can.  Trust in God to lead you on what to say in the future and how to behave.

Scripture Reference (taken from NIV)

A wicked person listens to deceitful lips; a liar pays attention to a destructive tongue. Proverbs 17:4

Do not add to his words, or he will rebuke you and prove you a liar.  Proverbs 30:6

Whoever says, "I know him," but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in that person. 1 John 2:4

Prayer

Protect me Oh Lord from the mouth of liars!  Give me the courage, knowledge and wisdom to deal with liars when the time comes.  I ask in Jesus name to forgive me of any lies I have told and keep me from the temptation to lie again.

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Your Enemy Won't Be on Top Forever

When you are use to being average or at the bottom in just about everything you do, you get to see the successful around you in a way that is different from one who already has more than enough.  It's as if God puts 3D spiritual glasses over your eyes and you can see how Satan uses people to kick you when you are down.  Those at the top, have little time or money, so they say, to help you climb to the top.  Help is always just enough, but never more than enough for the selfish, prideful, and ignorant.

Over the years, I have met many people who were at the top of their games (industries) living in some fantasy world in their minds, be brought back to reality!  You see, when you live in a world created to look beautiful, nice and wonderful because it has a dollar sign attached to it or because a "name" in a certain industry told you that it is so, you just might become a bit prideful and say mean things to people around you when they speak truth as God leads. 

"What do you know, you only make...I pay all the bills, what do you have to give...you think you are so smart...well what did God tell you about...?" 

The rebellious, arrogant fool is more concerned about shooting down the messengers of God, rather than facing a sure reality that he or she will fall one day with all his or her evil-speaking and deceptive ways.  Like Humpty, he sat on the wall, and all the "great, nice" people who was supposedly there to assist him, couldn't.  Oh they will try, but what God breaks up, puts down, or separates, He has to be the one to restore!  We must avoid Satan's trappings to want the things of others especially those who are under a curse!

Most people reach the top because of a love for money.  Some would love to sugarcoat the truth and even blatantly deny it, but their lives are turned upside down--not because of what the saved think they might know about the person's character, but usually because this "star," if you will, has violated God's truth--the Christian is not supposed to love money!  Because why?  It is the root of all evil!  The broke people, the generous associates, the critics of money, and the jealous folks all like to gather around individuals when money is being dispensed.  They don't love the individual giving the money, they love the money!  Yet, when it is all gone, the one who once bragged and talked of having it all is now like the rest of the world.  In a moment's notice, the enemy of God is humbled when he has nothing to talk about.

If this message, hits home to some of you, it is because someone, or maybe even you, who believes in Christ allowed being at the top to affect your relationship with the one true God.  So often Christians everywhere bring God for the ride of their lives and then when they reach the top, they don't know God, the church, his Bible, or the people around them that are being used by God.  Those that have fallen from grace, lose favor with God and it takes a long time to get back right with Him.

Intercede if you are one who this writing doesn't describe for those who permitted success to take a front seat in their lives while God sat in the back.  Pray for brothers and sisters struggling with a rebellious heart, those who are reprobate, and backsliders.  Ask that God will have mercy on them, bring peace to their minds, body and spirits so that they can hear from the Lord.  May God move on the hearts of men and women to do what's right for the Kingdom rather than focus on selfish gain.

To God be the glory!

Nicholl McGuire
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When God handles the confrontation for you..."When They Talked About Me"

This audio message provides an up close and personal experience of what God does when people talk about his messengers.  Wicked critics, backsliders, whoremongers, and liars have repeatedly been addressed in the Bible.  Things haven't changed much in our society since the prophets shared God's words centuries ago.  We all must be mindful of those who are working for God and those who are not. 

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When the Emotionally Abused still Loves Her Abuser

He disrespected her again by having sex with another woman. Further, when she confronted him he verbally assaulted her and blamed her for his past and present indiscretions. After he broke her down to the point that she couldn’t rationally think or explain how everything he did to her was making her ill inside and out, he proceeded to hit her, then choke her and ended it all by threatening to kill her. Even after all of that, days later, she confided in a friend that she still loved him. What!?

You just read a real life example of an abused girlfriend who appeared to look happy with her beau, but little did anyone know. Once the smiling faces leave a household, the cameras are put away after holiday photos are taken, police are gone after yet another misunderstanding, and the support system has retired, the young woman finds herself one day in a hospital bed recovering from wounds as a result of another physical altercation with her cheating, angry man.

The abused woman will tell you with tears in her eyes, “He is sorry…he didn’t mean to do what he did…well I should have never…because I know how he can be…I believe he loves me.” Witnesses looking at her situation will never “get her” without having to walk in her shoes. They ponder, “How can someone still love a person who wants them dead?”

Forgiveness only comes easy to those who have yet to permit bitterness to take root, but sooner or later, the abused woman will reach a point of no return emotionally where everyone will pay for what she put herself through.

As twisted as it may seem, the hurt woman convinces herself she still loves her abuser. It was a process for her to get to this place of confusion and it will be a process for her to see that the anger is actually a healthy way to help her get over him, which for some women, they simply aren’t ready to get over their abusers no matter want they have done to them! Her heart is compassionate, she believes he can be helped and she wants to be a part of his journey.

You told her the truth about her sick situation, now let her be.

Pray for those who are being abused right now as you click around this blog.

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Think: Before You Argue with an Unbelievers, Difficult People

Pray for them!  Some people, whether believers or unbelievers, have reprobate minds.  They are not going to believe in any being, go along with any sensible logic, or even attempt to get along with you especially if you are right about something. 

Pray that God will convict their hearts, then shake the dust from your feet and keep moving!

When Will You Face Your Foe?

Someone keeps saying some negative things about you and you keep responding with, "I don't care."  A group treats you wrongly and all you can say is, "God will deal with them."  Well, sometimes God isn't going to handle situations that he gave us the authority to handle, my friend!

What is the point in being Holy Spirit indwelled if you are not going to use Jesus name to fight a spiritual battle?  Sure, you prayed about the people and the group more than enough times.  But there is a supernatural battle that takes place when the same people keep having issue with you even when you see (with your natural eyes) that there is no reason for it. 

Supernaturally your prayers aggravated demons.  Your positive thoughts, conjured up negativity.  Your peaceful demeanor started a war.  "There she goes...being nice again.  There he is saying some crazy things yet again about his God...Here they are wanting me to come to church with them...Christians!"  the naysayers are mad.  The critic is cursing you and God's prophets are trying to help you and all you can say is, "Okay.  Don't tell me anything else."  Instead, thank the messenger of the Lord and begin to bind demons up in Jesus name--you do have the authority, don't you?  If in doubt, check the Bible out!

Declare spiritual warfare on your enemy, Saint!  Facing your foe is more than just telling someone you don't like what they are saying about you.  But standing up against your enemies is also about fighting a supernatural war where you conquer them in Jesus name!  When was the last time someone told you, "Go in there and fight!"  Most likely, they didn't.  "I will pray for you..." isn't good enough.  Ask the Lord to give you the strength, the courage, and the military might to fight your earthly as well as your supernatural enemies in Jesus name!

Nicholl McGuire

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I Know My Enemy

It didn't take long to find out he was wrong
for me.
I could see that he didn't like me.

Eye rolls and stares, he put his fingers through his hair.
He thought he was better than me.

I had to pray to the one above
to give me strength to love, to love
my enemy.

I know my enemy,
he likes to play with me.
Play with my mind, stab me from behind,
then lie, then lie about me.

When I plead my case, face-to-face
witnesses don't want to believe me.

Accuse me of having issues,
then they give me some tissues.
"I know my enemy," I say.
They say, "We will pray."

Lord, help me this day.
He smiles and walks away.

Nicholl McGuire 

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You Can Avoid Much Conflict in the Future if You Watch What You Say Today

Pray More, Argue Less

He's going to come talking about how he doesn't like this or that about you.  She is going to come to you with this issue and that one and she isn't going to be nice about explaining what is on her mind either. 

Your foe has an agenda and it goes something like this, "I didn't like the way she did that...I wish he hadn't said that...therefore I am going to tell this person how I feel." 

Foes come with emotional baggage.  Whether you are the one at fault or not, the point is the foe is ready for the fight, but not the battle.  You see, when one is fighting he or she is looking for the knock-out and hoping that will be it--you will go away, but when one is battling, everything is at war both in the natural and the spiritual and you and your Heavenly Father ain't going nowhere! 

So what are you going to do?  Well you could avoid the fight by not being available.  You could pray that your foe go away and you never see him or her again.  You could even pack up and declare yourself dead.  But seriously, what would any of these so-called easy-way-outs solve?  What lesson do you learn in fighting when you can let God into your mess and he can start and end the battle supernaturally even before you see the truce in the natural?  I prefer the latter option, because sometimes running just doesn't put things to rest like facing one's foe.  Running from the phone, the event, the person, the place, the thing, and so on doesn't do any good when the phone keeps ringing, the event is still going on, the person is still around, the place or thing still exists--now what? 

How about you prayerfully answer the cell phone, respond to the text, show up at the event, stop by unannounced for a visit carrying your foe's belongings, or being at the right place at the right time with the good news--that's right good news that you are free in Christ!  "I am free," you exclaim.  "I no longer feel the need to avoid you, cover up my feelings, and so on.  I want to put XYZ to rest; therefore, here is my solution," you say. 

Your foe isn't going to like the fact that you are controlling the confrontation--that you are getting your way.  So this person is going to act difficult, create a few lies, basically get you upset.  Devilish people bound by Satan don't like saintly people free in Christ. 

Your foe is going to look for the blow-up argument (you know the one where people curse, yell, police are called, and hearts and things get broken?) At some point, your hater/enemy/jealous relative/crazy co-worker is going to expect you to lose control; therefore giving he or she good reason to bring in their plan to annihilate you.  So the wicked one picks on you, he name-calls, yell, accuses you of things you didn't do, brings up the past, but surprisingly you aren't moved by anything the evil spirit within or around this person says or does.  The threats mean nothing.  The mental game-playing (ie. guilt trips) with relatives and friends don't hold any power anymore.  You aren't staying up all night crying or complaining about your foe issues.  You could care less about the He say/She say.  You have arrived, my friend!  You have reached the destination in your mind called, Peace.

Try as hard as you can with the help of the Holy Spirit to stand against your enemy wearing the full armor of God today, tonight and tomorrow!

Be grateful you have a Savior.  Pray more, argue less!


Nicholl McGuire

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