Tuesday, November 26, 2013
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
When the Emotionally Abused still Loves Her Abuser
He disrespected her again by having sex with another woman. Further, when she confronted him he verbally assaulted her and blamed her for his past and present indiscretions. After he broke her down to the point that she couldn’t rationally think or explain how everything he did to her was making her ill inside and out, he proceeded to hit her, then choke her and ended it all by threatening to kill her. Even after all of that, days later, she confided in a friend that she still loved him. What!?
You just read a real life example of an abused girlfriend who appeared to look happy with her beau, but little did anyone know. Once the smiling faces leave a household, the cameras are put away after holiday photos are taken, police are gone after yet another misunderstanding, and the support system has retired, the young woman finds herself one day in a hospital bed recovering from wounds as a result of another physical altercation with her cheating, angry man.
The abused woman will tell you with tears in her eyes, “He is sorry…he didn’t mean to do what he did…well I should have never…because I know how he can be…I believe he loves me.” Witnesses looking at her situation will never “get her” without having to walk in her shoes. They ponder, “How can someone still love a person who wants them dead?”
Forgiveness only comes easy to those who have yet to permit bitterness to take root, but sooner or later, the abused woman will reach a point of no return emotionally where everyone will pay for what she put herself through.
As twisted as it may seem, the hurt woman convinces herself she still loves her abuser. It was a process for her to get to this place of confusion and it will be a process for her to see that the anger is actually a healthy way to help her get over him, which for some women, they simply aren’t ready to get over their abusers no matter want they have done to them! Her heart is compassionate, she believes he can be helped and she wants to be a part of his journey.
You told her the truth about her sick situation, now let her be.
Pray for those who are being abused right now as you click around this blog.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate. Visit her blog here.
You just read a real life example of an abused girlfriend who appeared to look happy with her beau, but little did anyone know. Once the smiling faces leave a household, the cameras are put away after holiday photos are taken, police are gone after yet another misunderstanding, and the support system has retired, the young woman finds herself one day in a hospital bed recovering from wounds as a result of another physical altercation with her cheating, angry man.
The abused woman will tell you with tears in her eyes, “He is sorry…he didn’t mean to do what he did…well I should have never…because I know how he can be…I believe he loves me.” Witnesses looking at her situation will never “get her” without having to walk in her shoes. They ponder, “How can someone still love a person who wants them dead?”
Forgiveness only comes easy to those who have yet to permit bitterness to take root, but sooner or later, the abused woman will reach a point of no return emotionally where everyone will pay for what she put herself through.
As twisted as it may seem, the hurt woman convinces herself she still loves her abuser. It was a process for her to get to this place of confusion and it will be a process for her to see that the anger is actually a healthy way to help her get over him, which for some women, they simply aren’t ready to get over their abusers no matter want they have done to them! Her heart is compassionate, she believes he can be helped and she wants to be a part of his journey.
You told her the truth about her sick situation, now let her be.
Pray for those who are being abused right now as you click around this blog.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate. Visit her blog here.
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
Think: Before You Argue with an Unbelievers, Difficult People
Pray for them! Some people, whether believers or unbelievers, have reprobate minds. They are not going to believe in any being, go along with any sensible logic, or even attempt to get along with you especially if you are right about something.
Pray that God will convict their hearts, then shake the dust from your feet and keep moving!
Thursday, October 10, 2013
When Will You Face Your Foe?
Someone keeps saying some negative things about you and you keep responding with, "I don't care." A group treats you wrongly and all you can say is, "God will deal with them." Well, sometimes God isn't going to handle situations that he gave us the authority to handle, my friend!
What is the point in being Holy Spirit indwelled if you are not going to use Jesus name to fight a spiritual battle? Sure, you prayed about the people and the group more than enough times. But there is a supernatural battle that takes place when the same people keep having issue with you even when you see (with your natural eyes) that there is no reason for it.
Supernaturally your prayers aggravated demons. Your positive thoughts, conjured up negativity. Your peaceful demeanor started a war. "There she goes...being nice again. There he is saying some crazy things yet again about his God...Here they are wanting me to come to church with them...Christians!" the naysayers are mad. The critic is cursing you and God's prophets are trying to help you and all you can say is, "Okay. Don't tell me anything else." Instead, thank the messenger of the Lord and begin to bind demons up in Jesus name--you do have the authority, don't you? If in doubt, check the Bible out!
Declare spiritual warfare on your enemy, Saint! Facing your foe is more than just telling someone you don't like what they are saying about you. But standing up against your enemies is also about fighting a supernatural war where you conquer them in Jesus name! When was the last time someone told you, "Go in there and fight!" Most likely, they didn't. "I will pray for you..." isn't good enough. Ask the Lord to give you the strength, the courage, and the military might to fight your earthly as well as your supernatural enemies in Jesus name!
Nicholl McGuire
Don't have a study bible? Get one...Study with Nicholl http://bit.ly/J0wyop
Nicholl is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
What is the point in being Holy Spirit indwelled if you are not going to use Jesus name to fight a spiritual battle? Sure, you prayed about the people and the group more than enough times. But there is a supernatural battle that takes place when the same people keep having issue with you even when you see (with your natural eyes) that there is no reason for it.
Supernaturally your prayers aggravated demons. Your positive thoughts, conjured up negativity. Your peaceful demeanor started a war. "There she goes...being nice again. There he is saying some crazy things yet again about his God...Here they are wanting me to come to church with them...Christians!" the naysayers are mad. The critic is cursing you and God's prophets are trying to help you and all you can say is, "Okay. Don't tell me anything else." Instead, thank the messenger of the Lord and begin to bind demons up in Jesus name--you do have the authority, don't you? If in doubt, check the Bible out!
Declare spiritual warfare on your enemy, Saint! Facing your foe is more than just telling someone you don't like what they are saying about you. But standing up against your enemies is also about fighting a supernatural war where you conquer them in Jesus name! When was the last time someone told you, "Go in there and fight!" Most likely, they didn't. "I will pray for you..." isn't good enough. Ask the Lord to give you the strength, the courage, and the military might to fight your earthly as well as your supernatural enemies in Jesus name!
Nicholl McGuire
Don't have a study bible? Get one...Study with Nicholl http://bit.ly/J0wyop
Nicholl is the author of the following books:
Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic https://www.createspace.com/3437273
When Mothers Cry https://www.createspace.com/3393499
Laboring to Love Myself https://www.createspace.com/3401526
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate https://www.createspace.com/3332346
Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/904839
Spiritual Poems By Nicholl http://www.blurb.com/bookstore/detail/3113926
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
I Know My Enemy
It didn't take long to find out he was wrong
for me.
I could see that he didn't like me.
Eye rolls and stares, he put his fingers through his hair.
He thought he was better than me.
I had to pray to the one above
to give me strength to love, to love
my enemy.
I know my enemy,
he likes to play with me.
Play with my mind, stab me from behind,
then lie, then lie about me.
When I plead my case, face-to-face
witnesses don't want to believe me.
Accuse me of having issues,
then they give me some tissues.
"I know my enemy," I say.
They say, "We will pray."
Lord, help me this day.
He smiles and walks away.
Nicholl McGuire
Listen to book excerpts of Know your Enemy: The Christian's Critic here - https://www.createspace.com/3437273
for me.
I could see that he didn't like me.
Eye rolls and stares, he put his fingers through his hair.
He thought he was better than me.
I had to pray to the one above
to give me strength to love, to love
my enemy.
I know my enemy,
he likes to play with me.
Play with my mind, stab me from behind,
then lie, then lie about me.
When I plead my case, face-to-face
witnesses don't want to believe me.
Accuse me of having issues,
then they give me some tissues.
"I know my enemy," I say.
They say, "We will pray."
Lord, help me this day.
He smiles and walks away.
Nicholl McGuire
Listen to book excerpts of Know your Enemy: The Christian's Critic here - https://www.createspace.com/3437273
Monday, September 16, 2013
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Pray More, Argue Less
He's going to come talking about how he doesn't like this or that about you. She is going to come to you with this issue and that one and she isn't going to be nice about explaining what is on her mind either.
Your foe has an agenda and it goes something like this, "I didn't like the way she did that...I wish he hadn't said that...therefore I am going to tell this person how I feel."
Foes come with emotional baggage. Whether you are the one at fault or not, the point is the foe is ready for the fight, but not the battle. You see, when one is fighting he or she is looking for the knock-out and hoping that will be it--you will go away, but when one is battling, everything is at war both in the natural and the spiritual and you and your Heavenly Father ain't going nowhere!
So what are you going to do? Well you could avoid the fight by not being available. You could pray that your foe go away and you never see him or her again. You could even pack up and declare yourself dead. But seriously, what would any of these so-called easy-way-outs solve? What lesson do you learn in fighting when you can let God into your mess and he can start and end the battle supernaturally even before you see the truce in the natural? I prefer the latter option, because sometimes running just doesn't put things to rest like facing one's foe. Running from the phone, the event, the person, the place, the thing, and so on doesn't do any good when the phone keeps ringing, the event is still going on, the person is still around, the place or thing still exists--now what?
How about you prayerfully answer the cell phone, respond to the text, show up at the event, stop by unannounced for a visit carrying your foe's belongings, or being at the right place at the right time with the good news--that's right good news that you are free in Christ! "I am free," you exclaim. "I no longer feel the need to avoid you, cover up my feelings, and so on. I want to put XYZ to rest; therefore, here is my solution," you say.
Your foe isn't going to like the fact that you are controlling the confrontation--that you are getting your way. So this person is going to act difficult, create a few lies, basically get you upset. Devilish people bound by Satan don't like saintly people free in Christ.
Your foe is going to look for the blow-up argument (you know the one where people curse, yell, police are called, and hearts and things get broken?) At some point, your hater/enemy/jealous relative/crazy co-worker is going to expect you to lose control; therefore giving he or she good reason to bring in their plan to annihilate you. So the wicked one picks on you, he name-calls, yell, accuses you of things you didn't do, brings up the past, but surprisingly you aren't moved by anything the evil spirit within or around this person says or does. The threats mean nothing. The mental game-playing (ie. guilt trips) with relatives and friends don't hold any power anymore. You aren't staying up all night crying or complaining about your foe issues. You could care less about the He say/She say. You have arrived, my friend! You have reached the destination in your mind called, Peace.
Try as hard as you can with the help of the Holy Spirit to stand against your enemy wearing the full armor of God today, tonight and tomorrow!
Be grateful you have a Savior. Pray more, argue less!
Nicholl McGuire
Your foe has an agenda and it goes something like this, "I didn't like the way she did that...I wish he hadn't said that...therefore I am going to tell this person how I feel."
Foes come with emotional baggage. Whether you are the one at fault or not, the point is the foe is ready for the fight, but not the battle. You see, when one is fighting he or she is looking for the knock-out and hoping that will be it--you will go away, but when one is battling, everything is at war both in the natural and the spiritual and you and your Heavenly Father ain't going nowhere!
So what are you going to do? Well you could avoid the fight by not being available. You could pray that your foe go away and you never see him or her again. You could even pack up and declare yourself dead. But seriously, what would any of these so-called easy-way-outs solve? What lesson do you learn in fighting when you can let God into your mess and he can start and end the battle supernaturally even before you see the truce in the natural? I prefer the latter option, because sometimes running just doesn't put things to rest like facing one's foe. Running from the phone, the event, the person, the place, the thing, and so on doesn't do any good when the phone keeps ringing, the event is still going on, the person is still around, the place or thing still exists--now what?
How about you prayerfully answer the cell phone, respond to the text, show up at the event, stop by unannounced for a visit carrying your foe's belongings, or being at the right place at the right time with the good news--that's right good news that you are free in Christ! "I am free," you exclaim. "I no longer feel the need to avoid you, cover up my feelings, and so on. I want to put XYZ to rest; therefore, here is my solution," you say.
Your foe isn't going to like the fact that you are controlling the confrontation--that you are getting your way. So this person is going to act difficult, create a few lies, basically get you upset. Devilish people bound by Satan don't like saintly people free in Christ.
Your foe is going to look for the blow-up argument (you know the one where people curse, yell, police are called, and hearts and things get broken?) At some point, your hater/enemy/jealous relative/crazy co-worker is going to expect you to lose control; therefore giving he or she good reason to bring in their plan to annihilate you. So the wicked one picks on you, he name-calls, yell, accuses you of things you didn't do, brings up the past, but surprisingly you aren't moved by anything the evil spirit within or around this person says or does. The threats mean nothing. The mental game-playing (ie. guilt trips) with relatives and friends don't hold any power anymore. You aren't staying up all night crying or complaining about your foe issues. You could care less about the He say/She say. You have arrived, my friend! You have reached the destination in your mind called, Peace.
Try as hard as you can with the help of the Holy Spirit to stand against your enemy wearing the full armor of God today, tonight and tomorrow!
Be grateful you have a Savior. Pray more, argue less!
Nicholl McGuire
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