How to Identify Someone with Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem can be a complex issue, and there are numerous potential causes. Sometimes confidence issues can stem from experiences in childhood, such as being ridiculed or belittled by teachers or peers. Other times, it can be caused by trauma - e.g., the aftermath of physical abuse or sexual assault. 

In some cases, low self-esteem may even be caused by the attitudes of parents or other important figures in one's life - messages of shame and guilt may be unconsciously internalized as self-limiting beliefs. At a deeper level still, low confidence may even have its roots in biological vulnerabilities - hormonal imbalances, genetic predispositions, etc. Consequently, while it's impossible to pinpoint the exact cause of low self-esteem without deeper consideration and careful assessment, these are among the more likely sources that could lead to an individual feeling unworthy and inadequate. Ultimately, understanding how and why confidence issues arise is essential for properly addressing them. 

If you have a hard time recognizing someone with low self-esteem, look for the following signs: They may be shy or withdrawn, avoid social situations, and lack confidence in their own abilities. They may display negative behaviors and think poorly of themselves. They often feel like they are not good enough or don’t deserve anything good that comes their way.  

It can be difficult to know how to help someone who has low self-esteem, but being there to offer support is always a start. Let them know that you care about them and believe in them no matter what. Encourage them to try new activities as this helps build confidence in their abilities. Additionally, focus on building up their strengths rather than pointing out weaknesses.  

Sharing compliments with someone who has low self-esteem is one of the best ways to help raise their spirits. Point out things that you admire about them and let them know that you appreciate their hard work. It can be difficult for them to accept compliments, so be patient and continue to remind them of how great they are.  

Finally, encourage positive thinking and help remove negative thoughts from their minds. Remind them of all the good qualities they have, instead of focusing on areas where they may feel like they lack ability or confidence. When people begin to think more positively about themselves, this can start to restore their self-esteem. With your support, it’s possible for those with low self-esteem to gain confidence and start to believe in themselves once again.  

By doing these simple things, you can help someone with low self-esteem get back on the right path towards feeling better about themselves. It may take time, but your support and encouragement can make a huge difference in their life. You are an important part of the process!  

When you’re building someone up, it's also important to be authentic and genuine with your compliments. Saying something nice just for the sake of it won't do much to raise their self-esteem. Instead, try to focus on specific qualities that you admire or moments where they have shown courage or resilience. These heartfelt sentiments will go a long way in helping them feel better about themselves.  

Remember, everyone deserves to feel good about who they are and what they can do. Your support and encouragement can help someone with low self-esteem start to gain the confidence they need to live a full, meaningful life!  

 

If you need help dealing with low self-esteem, there are plenty of resources available. Reach out to a counselor or therapist for additional guidance and support. They can provide professional advice tailored to your specific needs. You are not alone in this journey!  

With the right help and support, anyone can start to build up their self-esteem and feel great about themselves again.  

Nicholl McGuire is the owner of this blog and contributor and she is also the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry.